Comments: 3
SilverThistle 5 years ago
I don't know the first thing about any of this, where it started, how, why, etc. but, any time I see an author make a post about quitting I just roll my eyes and think "see you again in a couple of days then, shall we?". It happens so often that all their outpouring of feels in their 'goodbye post's' just seems like white-noise now.

They all say it's not about the drama, but it really is. If you're going to quit - just quit. Long soul searching posts day after day about how awful it all isJust go already if that's what you're set on.

OT - whenever I see a post from you I want to go dig out my Farscape dvd's and have a marathon session. That avatar! :D

The Fangirl 5 years ago
This is just a new capitalist spin on "playing victim." People, especially women, seem to always buy into it, because it makes us feel like we're the "better person" for being sympathetic, and gives us a perceived "in" with someone we view to have more social value than ourselves.

I dislike the wording of this being "part of the parcel of being in the public eye." Yes, criticism of your "work" or "art" is to be expected, and even encouraged if you want to improve your craft. But personal criticism and abuse is NOT legitimate critique, and I do not believe it should ever be considered acceptable, no matter if the person is famous or not.

I think it's really important for us to draw a very distinct line between criticism of someone's work, or even their professional choices verses abuse, judgement or harassment of them personally.

Don't get me wrong, I hate E.L. James. I have every right to share my opinions of her work, and my issues with her personal ethics. Those are legitimate criticisms. However, when I call her a self serving bitch, I'm just sharing my own bitchy opinion. If I send her nasty emails, and publicly comment about her appearance, perceived intelligence or worse criticize her family, that is harassment.

I feel like too often both sides try to paint all criticism with the same brush, and I think we need to be really honest, about what is legitimate criticism and what is insults, personal attacks, microagressions and/or harassment.

Because no one deserves to told that they're a stupid, fat bitch who deserves to die just because they don't know how to write a good book.