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I am really enjoying this series. I actually can't read BDSM in MF books - at least not when the woman is the sub, which is practically always the case. It isn't that it offends me so much as that it squicks me. I know that BDSM isn't abuse but it *feels* like abuse.

But! I can read BDSM in MM books. It isn't really my favorite, as I still don't get it, but with the gender issues removed, I can believe that the participants want and enjoy it and enjoy it on their behalf.

Anyway, I think you are right on with your observation that the outrage was mostly because women were reading kinky smut. People make fun of Dan Brown, but they aren't horrified and appalled in nearly the same way. Amused and superior rather than apoplectic.
LiliaFord 5 years ago
I totally agree: I much prefer BDSM in M/M as opposed to het romance: somehow in M/F politics and real world power differences get in the way, and it's often disturbing instead of sensual or kinky. As to your final point: I'm still amazed at how scandalous people found it: even when critics were busy saying how FSoG was really tame and not that kinky, they still found it scandalous that women were actually reading it and treating it as a wank read. The biggest irony is that if you're just evaluating wank material, they should have been praising women because their chosen jerk-off material has an actual story with real characters and complexity; compared to the average porno movie, FSoG really is War and Peace.
A Reading Vocation 5 years ago
I don't read or write erotica, but I really enjoy your intelligent posts on the subject.
LiliaFord 5 years ago
Thank you so much. I'm hoping to write a few more pieces; obviously it's a favorite topic, though I can't quite believe I'm writing so much on Fifty Shades, which honestly is not a book I'm fond of, just angry at the way critics trashed it.