Lora's Rants and Reviews
3 months ago
Any girl over twelve has experienced something that could be called sexual harrassment, but it ranges from putting up with comments from the office sleaze to violent rape. Campaigns like this make me uncomfortable because they make it sound like all men are rapists and doesn't acknowledge the victims who lie or exaggerate. I read one case where a couple split up and she decided all previous consent was withdrawn, so she called it rape.
Raising awareness of how uncomfortable some things are for women, like the catcalls from construction workers and such. But the real bad people don't care about hashtags or anything else. I think this is making good men uncomfortable and having no effect on the bad ones.
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3 months ago
I have to disagree here.
Even if victims lie or exaggerate, which I am sure happens a lot, I think that campaigns like these are very important, because they give you a good idea about the extend of this particular problem. As a woman who worked in architecture and the building industry I had to face severe sexism and stupid comments on a daily basis and I know that most men – including construction workers – are good guys, neither rapists, nor even sexists, but they are generally unaware that their behaviour can be considered sexist or that it makes women extremely uncomfortable.
You may be right, that the bad guys don’t give a damn about it, but for me campaigns like these do not imply that every man is a potential rapist, but it helps and encourages the good guys amongst them to pay more attention on how they and the people surrounding them treat others. Lying about rape or exaggerating is absolutely unacceptable, of course, but just from my personal experience I can tell you, that speaking up is the only way to change things for the better.
3 months ago
I think our perception of it depends, to some extent, on our personal experiences. I've worked in a female dominated profession, so have been less exposed than some. But I'm aware that it happens, and yes, I've been subject to persistent, unwanted sexual attention, and I think the importance of this kind of campaign is to make both men and women aware that some behaviors that they may have regarded as benign, really are not, and the "good" men who don't think of themselves as harassers, and may actually not even be harassers, should not condone such behavior by their silence. When we all speak up, social acceptance of harassing and demeaning behavior changes.
And I am as guilty as some of these "good" men - there have been times when I should have spoken up when I witnessed harassing behaviors that were borderline socially acceptable, but chose not to rock the boat.
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