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Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you. {{HUGS}}
Abandoned by user 5 years ago
That is a scary situation and it's not surprising that you feel off-balance and scared. My sympathy for the long walk you have ahead of you.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thanks, M.R. That means a lot to me.
BrokenTune 5 years ago
Hugs. That is scary stuff indeed. :(
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thanks.
Scarlet's Web 5 years ago
The best advice I can give you is just to take it one day at a time. We went through it with my Gran and with my Father n Law and each person with dementia is different. I never really got on with my father n law but with dementia he turned into the sweetest old man, it was weird. It's surprising what you can cope with and it's hard not to worry when you don't know what the next day will bring but one day at a time is how we all coped. My gran kept a diary, wrote all her memories down and put photographs in it, when she was confused we would giver it to her to read and it would help her. Maybe that's something you could start doing now that would help in future.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you, Scarlet. We're trying to take it one day at a time.
And the diary is a great idea!
Hol 5 years ago
I'm so sorry about this. I completly get the mother/daughter relationship, as you know from my e-mails, so you're not on our own. I can''t imagine how hard this would be. I'm thinking of you both right now and I'm here for you anytime, I hope you know that.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
I do know that Holly and thank you. *HUGS*
I am so sorry to hear this. I can not imagine what you are going through and feeling. I would say maybe find a support group or books that have maybe some answers to help you understand what to do and how to handle things. I am keeping you and your mother in my thoughts. Good luck hon.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you, Fallen. We are planning on finding a group, so that we can learn more about what to expect.
Mike Finn 5 years ago
I understand the fear. My father-in-law had the same condition. The man I'd known for twenty years disappeared. That was bad. What was worse was that, sometimes, for short periods, he'd come back.

This is disease that hurts the whole family by spreading grief and fear and guilt.

I wish you the strength and support to get through this.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you, ABJ. I'm so sorry for what you've gone through. I know that we have a tough road ahead and I'll take any strength and support you can give.
There's no way I can like this post. I agree with Scarlet..one day at a time. I'm here if you ever just need to rant and have someone listen. ((Hugs))
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you. *HUGS*
Of course the situation is scary and it's completely out of your control. I can't imagine what you are going through, but I will be thinking of you and your mother. **Hugs**
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you. That means a lot to me. *HUGS*
That does sound like a scary situation. So sorry you are going through this. I wish you both the best of luck through these rough times. *big hugs*
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thanks, 99. *HUGS*
Reflections 5 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear about your mother, best wishes to you both.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you.
Darth Pedant 5 years ago
**REALLY BIG HUGS**
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Darth, thank you. *REALLY BIG HUGS RIGHT BACK*
Bark at the Ghouls 5 years ago
Oh Char, I'm so sorry. We went thru this with my husbands grandma several years ago and it was rough. Sometimes funny - her personality changed so much and she'd tell us crazy stories about how all the men in the nursing home were hitting on her - but mostly it was sad.If you need an ear we are here.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
I appreciate that, Barks. I'm sorry for what your husband's grandma went through, and for what your family must have gone through as a result. What a shitty disease. :(
Spare Ammo 5 years ago
My mom and I went through this with my aunt (late father's sister), I am so sorry for what is ahead. Now while she is still "with you" you have to get all the details clear, all the legalities taken care of. Her doctor will be able to help you with deciding when she shouldn't live alone anymore.

There is a chance that her personality changes will give you a chance to have a closer relationship. My reserved, quiet aunt became the life and soul of the party at the adult care home where she lived for a while.

But right now, get all the legalities taken care of. Good luck and if you need to talk about it, it looks like you have a depressingly large group of us who have been there, done that.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you, Spare Ammo. And thanks for sharing about your aunt. There ARE a depressingly large number of people that have experience with this, isn't there? What a terrible disease. :(
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know that you are loved Char and i'm thinking of you and your Mom's well-being. take care! ♥
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thanks, sweetheart. *HUGS*
Midu Reads 5 years ago
*hugs*
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you, Midu. *HUGS*
Martini 5 years ago
I am so sorry to hear this! It is totally normal to be scared of what lies ahead. We have been through this with my grandmother; she was one of those who wandered off, and it scared me more than I can say. Please take all the help you can get, from family, friends and organisations. You don't have to deal with this on your own!
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you, Martini. I appreciate your sharing about your grandmother. I'm sorry that happened to you and your family. This disease really sucks. :(
Lindsay's Book Log 5 years ago
*Hugs*
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thanks. *HUGS*
It's a Mad Mad World 5 years ago
*Hugs*
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you, my book loving friend. *HUGS*
Portable Magic 5 years ago
I can't even imagine what you must be going through. I hope you have a support network to help you through this. It sounds as though you've been given good information to help you prepare. Best wishes for you and your family.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
I really don't, but you guys have turned out to be so supportive! We will be looking for groups, for the both of us probably, but in the meantime, you Booklikers have brought a smile to my face.
Thank you, PM.
(( hugs )) One breath at a time darlin' try to stay in the now the now the future will work its' self out
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thanks, YM. I'm going to try. *HUGS*
5 years ago
Not weird, normal. Anyone would be scared of the real life situation. I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. I've been there, although I was close to my mother. At least you have warning, and there is a lot of support for this too. The confusion when she can't remember things is the hardest thing, but there are coping techniques. Having things around to act as reminders and such.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you, Lora. I'm sorry that you had to go through this with your mom. I imagine it's much, much worse when you're very close, like you two were. Thanks for commenting. *HUGS*
Soze Says 5 years ago
I'm sorry, Char. All the best to your Mum, you and your family for facing this together.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you, my friend.
I'm so sorry, Char. Wishing you and your family all the best.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thanks, Rachel. And thanks for your note. *HUGS*
Real life is always scarier than fiction. When reading or watching a film one can always turn on the lights, turn it off, or put it down and everything is okay again, not in real life. You are already feeling a sort of grief and this is sometimes more difficult when the person is still with us physically.

I have an aging mother in somewhat poor health and can sympathise with you. Best wishes.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
I'm sorry to hear about your mother, Randolph. I appreciate your comments-thank you.
A Bit Bookish 5 years ago
I'm sorry this is happening. Even if you're not close, it must be really difficult. Sending you positivity and hugs.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you. *HUGS*
alwaysbooks 5 years ago
So sorry to hear this.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Me too! Thank you.
Char, I'm so sorry to hear this news. This is a very difficult situation for everyone involved. I wish you and your family all the best.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you, Kate.
charlton 5 years ago
It's not weird Char,it's a scary situation.I had a similar situation last year,just know we are all here for you.I'm so sorry and wish you the best.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thanks so much, charlton. I appreciate it. (I'm sorry you went through something similar. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. :(
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you, my friend. *HUGS*
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thank you so much, Bookstooge. That means a lot.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thanks, PAB. *HUGS*
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thanks, Troy.
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
Thanks, OB. *HUGS*
Char's Horror Corner 5 years ago
I'm sorry about your grandmother, DM, and thank you. *HUGS*