Wrong email address or username
Wrong email address or username
Incorrect verification code
back to top
Search tags: men-v-women-sleep
Load new posts () and activity
Like Reblog Comment
review 2020-02-23 20:01
Why We Can't Sleep
Why We Can't Sleep: Women's New Midlife Crisis - Ada Calhoun

[I received a copy through NetGalley, in exchange for an honest review.]

A hit in some ways, a miss in others for me.

I am technically a Gen-Xer, after all, and have been curious about what it’s like for other people—what it’s like, hitting your forties? Are their experiences the same as mine? Am I even experiencing the frightful middle-life crisis, or not yet, and how can I tell? The author worked with her own experiences, as well as those of friends, and from research, too, so the result was a good mix, I think, of personal plus scientific/psychological. And it is definitely interesting to see all these experiences, some very close to each other, others pretty varied, all the more since a lot of women I know then to bag it all and have less visibility when it comes to reaching middle-age.

That said, it was also a miss, because a lot of the aforementioned also didn’t resonate with me. (Mostly it’s about cisgender, middle/upper class women.) I identify as agender and aro-ace; I’m not nor do I want to be in a romantic relationship; I don’t have nor do I want children; my background and career path place me much more among millennials than xennials; I never felt the pressure of “having it all” (no family to take care of), I don’t particularly feel “invisible” (I probably am, but I don’t feel it since I’m not interested in romantic love, and I’m enough of a nerd, in a branch where this is desirable, for people to notice me regardless). So, this was all interesting, but in a distanced way. I didn’t relate that much. Is it because I haven’t reached that point yet? Or because my path is different enough that my experience will never be so close to what’s most often depicted here?

I guess I did enjoy this book, although it didn’t particularly “speak” to me. I’d recommend it only to someone who matches that demographic and is interested in a mirror—“I’m not alone and this comforts me”.

P.S. It's not about how to cure insomnia.

Like Reblog Comment
show activity (+)
url 2016-03-09 09:20

I KNEW it!! Screw you people who helped in damaging my sonal-dependant needs as a woman? You out there that have waked me with various proven harmful tools of mass arousal (and not the good kind). You are against our basic female human rights and I for one won't stand (or stay asleep) for it any more (than my newly prescribed daily allotted time). Which candidate will wake up, stand up, and be our champion this polling season?

Like Reblog Comment
review 2013-08-22 00:00
French Women Don't Sleep Alone: Pleasurable Secrets to Finding Love
French Women Don't Sleep Alone: Pleasurable Secrets to Finding Love - Jamie Cat Callan This is a very quick (and unsubstantial) read, and it's really hard for me to imagine its target audience. While the author repeats , that in France "women of certain age" are still found attractive, and I can recall no tips or assertions considering young women exlusively, the ideas in the book (apart from two sections, on which later) are really basic, and exactly what I recall from teen mags when I was still young and promising;)

Main premises are as follows:

1. French women have their feminine/understated sexy mode 'on' all the time, instead of being relaxed, then pulling out the Big Bombshell Guns, as American women seem to do.
2. French women celebrate everyday, and splurge on good cosmetics.
3. French women wear matching underwear.
4. French women go to cafes to read, by themselves (I swear, this was the DARING thing to do when I was sixteen)
5. French women are discreet and don't do TMI.

Leave that out, and only two sections - on entertaining and meeting men - are actually worth any attention (albeit I find the former highly irritating).
More posts
Your Dashboard view:
Need help?