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After Visiting Friends: A Son's Story - Michael Hainey
After Visiting Friends: A Son's Story
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A decade in the writing, the haunting story of a son’s quest to understand the mystery of his father’s death—a universal memoir about the secrets families keep and the role they play in making us who we are.Michael Hainey had just turned six when his uncle knocked on his family’s back door one... show more
A decade in the writing, the haunting story of a son’s quest to understand the mystery of his father’s death—a universal memoir about the secrets families keep and the role they play in making us who we are.Michael Hainey had just turned six when his uncle knocked on his family’s back door one morning with the tragic news: Bob Hainey, Michael’s father, was found alone near his car on Chicago’s North Side, dead, of an apparent heart attack. Thirty-five years old, a young assistant copy desk chief at the Chicago Sun-Times, Bob was a bright and shining star in the competitive, hard-living world of newspapers, one that involved booze-soaked nights that bled into dawn. And then suddenly he was gone, leaving behind a young widow, two sons, a fractured family—and questions surrounding the mysterious nature of his death that would obsess Michael throughout adolescence and long into adulthood. Finally, roughly his father’s age when he died, and a seasoned reporter himself, Michael set out to learn what happened that night. Died “after visiting friends,” the obituaries said. But the details beyond that were inconsistent. What friends? Where? At the heart of his quest is Michael’s all-too-silent, opaque mother, a woman of great courage and tenacity—and a steely determination not to look back. Prodding and cajoling his relatives, and working through a network of his father’s buddies who abide by an honor code of silence and secrecy, Michael sees beyond the long-held myths and ultimately reconciles the father he’d imagined with the one he comes to know—and in the journey discovers new truths about his mother. A stirring portrait of a family and its legacy of secrets, After Visiting Friends is the story of a son who goes in search of the truth and finds not only his father, but a rare window into a world of men and newspapers and fierce loyalties that no longer exists.
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Format: hardcover
ISBN: 9781451676563 (1451676565)
ASIN: 1451676565
Publisher: Scribner
Pages no: 320
Edition language: English
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Denise
Denise rated it
5.0 After Visiting Friends: A Son's Story
I really connected with this book. I live in the Chicagoland area and know of some of the places that Michael Hainey talks about in this book. My mother would tell me stories about her childhood growing up on the South side of Chicago in the 60's and 70's and some of the stories that Hainey writes a...
lindawisniewski
lindawisniewski rated it
4.0 After Visiting Friends: A Son's Story
There is a family secret at the heart of this lovely memoir, but it's nothing terribly shocking. The author's father died when he was very young, and as he grows up, he realizes the story of how and where his father's body was found has some big holes in it. Why was he on that street? Why weren't th...
SJane
SJane rated it
This is not an amazing story; it is the telling of it that is. Michael Hainey lost his father, a copy editor at a Chicago newspaper, when he was six, and, like a lot of families, his didn't discuss it further. They took the official version at face value and got on with it. But a boy who loses his f...
auntieannie
auntieannie rated it
4.0 After Visiting Friends: A Son's Story
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My Reading Life
My Reading Life rated it
5.0 After Visiting Friends: A Son's Story
My father died the month I was turning 5. I've always had questions about him, as I have only a few years worth of memories stored up. Knowing my father - the real person - has always been something I've missed. I've played the "what if..." games frequently, imagining my life if he had lived. Th...
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