Genre: M/M Contemporary
Are we or aren’t we? That’s the question that plagued Niles throughout a majority of this story. How does someone go about spending nearly all of their time with another person doing all of the things that lovers/partners do together for three years and not know whether or not they are in an actual relationship? That’s the question that plagued me as I read this book.
Communication issues are often stereotypically associated with men and youth. Niles and Rylan (being both male and young) take the lack of communication to a whole new level, well, at least Niles does since the story is told from his point of view. Imagine “clueless” combined with “cat’s got your tongue” and you get a pretty accurate picture of Niles. He may have frustrated the hell out of me, but yet there was something still very likeable and endearing about him.
Rylan takes more time to get to know. At first, he comes off as a bit cold and maybe even a tiny bit scary with his penchant for dominance in the bedroom. However, as the story unfolds, it becomes very clear that he’s really a softie with a huge heart. He’s completely in love with Niles (and Niles’ family). Everyone else can see it (minus Niles’ friend Shona, who seemed to only have negative thoughts and advice when it came to Rylan). Niles was the only one who didn’t have a clue until finally they actually start to TALK!
Despite my frustration over the communication gap between Niles and Rylan, this was a wonderful story depicting the ups and downs of a young couple as they deal with very adult issues: differing family backgrounds, the illness of a loved one, a very non-vanilla sex life that doesn’t seem “normal” and has so-called friends butting their noses in, and questions about commitment in the face of their young age. If you enjoy stories about established couples, or coming of age stories, or stories where the main characters are into the exploration of their sexual boundaries, then this book will be a triple win!
The comment section of this post is definitely worth the read.
This is something I have been pondering and wondering for awhile, and I'd add that I have also mentioned this to BL staff and made a request for reblogging feature to be optional when comes to reviews, so I hope this is something I will see in the future.
I absolutely understand why people do reblog reviews, to share the awesomeness. But I personally strongly dislike when someone reblogs my review (no offense to anyone, this is my personal preference), although it has happened less than 5 times or so. So it is not like a huge problem for me. Other reblogs I, however, do adore.
My reasons for dislike are:
a) when a person reblogs a review, reblogged review will be added to the book page. Now, let's say you write a review and 20 people reblog it. It means book page is filled with 21 identical reviews.
b) when a person reblogs a review, as I mentioned, the reblog is added to the book page. But it shows under the blogger name of the person who reblogged the review, not under the name of the original reviewer. You actually need to open the review to see that it indeed is not the person's review but a reblogged review of someone's else.
c) reblogged review is always shown as the newest. When I did not know this, I sometimes re-posted my reviews (some had reblogs on them) after editing etc. which made my review the newest on the book page. That way the reblogged review (reblog of my review) shows as it would be the oldest (or first) review. I didn't really see this as an problem before I realized you actually have to go to the review to see that it indeed is a reblog. I figured perhaps it will cause problems. Funnily enough, after a week someone asked through other book site if I am copying reviews. Well no, I am not. It got solved after I did advice them to click the review so they can see it is a reblog of my review.
d) I am starting to think this is one way for author's to promote their faces ( I am not just talking about authors reblogging reviews about their own books but random bloggers reviews of popular/less popular books) as reblogging will put their face up to the book page. This has happened to me few times.
Hilariously enough, there still is people who do not know what reblog means, and people who do not even notice if review/post/whatever is reblogged while surfing the feeds.
Thoughts? And pardon me if I explained this in a difficult way, my brain is not in English mode at the moment.
Edit: here is a link to Batgrl: Bookish Hooha post about the subject, it does state some issues better than I could of had, big thanks to her for contacting BL and taking action. Her post: Booklikes Functionality: Concern on How Reblog Reviews Appear on Book Pages.