I recall this came out last year. A friend of mine went to a book signing by Gabrielle Union and was raving over this book. I was hesitant to read cause I'm heard on memoirs and always feel guilty when I don't like them. Cause if you don't like the memoir, you don't like the person. If it's ghostwritten though all bets are off.
I know of Gabrielle Union. I'm an African American woman and have been watching and obsessing over her since I was a teen. She's been in so many movies (Bring it On, 10 Things I Hate About You, Daddy's Little Girls, Bad Boys II, Good Deeds, etc.) and she stars in one of my favorite shows, Being Mary Jane (yeah I get rowdy about that show on Twitter). I always feel weirdly proud when an African American woman kicks ass in any field. As Union says at one point, we are taught since we're small we have to be better than everyone else to even be looked at as the same. A Super Negro can spot their own.
Union begins her memoir in chronological manner before she jumps back and forth between her first marriage (my butt didn't even know she was married before Dwayne Wade) and second marriage. She talks about hearing the "n" word as a kid and doing her best to walk between two world's at school and with her family during her summers away. And she's painfully honest about doing what she could to be found "cute" since her dark skin was not seen as attractive with so many boys she was growing up with.
One of my favorite sections is when Union discusses colorism in the African American community in a very great way. I know our community still hasn't addressed it and there's still the lingering shame of being "too dark" or "too light" and you think we be over it as adults, and we're not. Hell people still trying to hide Lupita away on screen which is why I'm so happy to see her fully out and gorgeous in Black Panther.
Another favorite section is when Union recounts when she was raped and how it affected and still affects her. I remember her clapping back at Mayim Bialik and her terrible op-ed going into how if women dressed more conservative they would be less likely to be sexually assaulted. I have never wanted to reach through my phone so much in my life.
Gabrielle shares her thoughts on being a stepmother, helping to raise young black men in America, and what drove her to support Planned Parenthood and other initiatives dealing with women's health.
I will say there are also some sections that will make you howl with laughter. My favorites have to be her reminiscing about a bully looking to beat her butt, her period and not understanding tampons, and when she tried some homeopathic (I guess I can call them that) to cure a yeast infection. She's also pretty upfront about sex and owning her sexuality.
As I said in my update, I laughed, I cried, I loved it.