If your pattern is that of insecurity in your relationship, you may fall into the trap of blaming your partner for it. In reality, it could be your past experiences that are causing the issue. If someone has betrayed your trust or created an environment of insecurity, learning to be confident will take work. However, it is possible to do it as you take responsibility for your actions and emotions. 

Here are Some Tips on How to Gain More Confidence in Your Relationship

Know your worth

Building confidence in yourself is the first step to gaining confidence in your relationship or work. You need to practice self-love and believe in yourself. That is how you will know you deserve to find happiness in a healthy relationship. Even if something bad happens, you will know you are still worthy and can bounce back from hardship. Knowing your self-worth is, without a doubt, the first step to gaining confidence. 

Take better care of yourself

You need to love yourself and learn to be a better version of yourself. Identify your strengths and embrace them. Do not belittle them because those traits of your character will come to your aid when you start overcoming your weaknesses. Start exercising if you are not, and eat healthily. Embrace other positive habits, like meditation, journaling, yoga and finding more time for recreation and self-improvement. When you are happy, your relationship is also happy. 

Know what your needs are
When you know your needs, it is easier to know if your partner meets them and whether your relationship is fulfilling. It can sometimes be difficult to ask for what you need, especially when you lack confidence. But when you know your needs are not met, you will find the strength and courage to do so. That is how you will feel more confident in your relationship with your partner. 

Overcome your limiting beliefs

You cannot become a better version of yourself if you constantly hold yourself back. Limiting beliefs impacts relationships most negatively. For example, if you think you are undeserving of love or feel insecure, you will not build up your relationship with your partner but rather tear it down. You must work to identify such beliefs and overcome them. Only then can you feel more confident and fulfilled in a relationship. 

Let go of your past

If your past is still haunting you, whether due to mistakes or things you have experienced, you need to let go. These are all lessons you have had to go through, but they are not your whole story. They don’t need to shape your future and hold you back. Letting go of your past and accepting the things you have learned from it.

Be present in your relationship

If you are not present in your relationship but rather dwell in the past or worry about the future, you will never feel confident in the moment. The past is merely a memory, and the future does not exist. What matters most is the real moment, which you should always focus on. When you give your partner the gift of presence, you will never worry about your relationship. 

Following the aforementioned tips is a great way to start building yourself up when it comes to confidence in a relationship. It takes time, but it’s a self-improvement act that will benefit you and your partner. 

© Kate Mansfield Dating Coach