Tom Justin, author of 'How To Take No For An Answer And Still Succeed - The Manual.'The little boy was crying. He was clearly embarrassed as he looked from his mother, who was publicly scolding him, to the passersby at Bloomingdale's in New York City. She was so harsh that it caused me to react. I bent down next to her, which startled her. I looked at the boy and said, 'Don't worry, adults sometimes make mistakes too. You'll be okay.' Then I winked at him. His eyes got big as I smiled and walked away.I'd been shopping before giving a keynote speech before 500 sales award recipients at the New York Hilton that night. When I came across this scene it brought back the times in my life when I'd been both publicly and privately humiliated, (not by my parents, thankfully) rejected, along with my life's failures. I thought to myself, how long would this boy remember this? Will it stay with him throughout life? Will it change him?That night in the huge Hilton ballroom, my prepared speech went out the window as I recounted this story and shared some ways that we might overcome those horrific feelings and at the same time, reduces our stress levels. I asked, rhetorically, how many of us might be silently and even unknowingly suffering from events like that in our past? The response at the end of the program was one of the most jarring and gratifying I've ever received as a speaker. It hit nerves everywhere.Ever since then it's become the most requested speech that I give. I created a manual for the workshops I was giving, and then updated it, and this book was born, "How To Take No For An Answer And Still Succeed.:At first the book and seminar seemed so simple to me. The reactions never end and neither will doing this program. I find that regardless of the talk I'm giving, elements of How To Take No... are always present.At first the seminar was for salespeople, then it evolved into a work that helped others reduce stress and tension in their daily lives, regardless of what they may do for a living.One of the keys to working with challenges in life is to be solution-conscious instead of problem-conscious. It's easy to identify the "problems." They are right up there in our faces all the time. As the more serious problems arise, it is natural to be more problem-conscious than solution-conscious because we are seeing the problems most predominately.A "NO" almost always brings us to a problem. Even those that are quickly solved are, nevertheless, still a problem of more time, money or effort, be it mental or physical. The more serious challenges of NO'S can tear us up and wear us down if we don't deal with them in a proactive way. And not simply by thinking them away, positively or otherwise, but by proactively dealing with them.The only thing you can truly control is your mind. How you act, react and the decisions that you make are always your choice.If you wish to diminish stress, become unattached to the results of your desires. Your stress will be reduced in direct proportion to the attachment you have on the outcome.I'd like to share my complimentary free report with you. It has information not in the book yet. Just go to http://HowToTakeNo.com and you'll see the registration link and you'll have it on your desktop in moments.NOTE: The book is available on both Kindle and in print.