Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts
Why do people dodge responsibility when things fall apart? Why the parade of public figures unable to own up when they screw up? Why the endless marital quarrels over who is right? Why can we see hypocrisy in others but not in ourselves? Are we all liars? Or do we really believe the stories we... show more
Why do people dodge responsibility when things fall apart? Why the parade of public figures unable to own up when they screw up? Why the endless marital quarrels over who is right? Why can we see hypocrisy in others but not in ourselves? Are we all liars? Or do we really believe the stories we tell?Renowned social psychologists Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson take a compelling look into how the brain is wired for self-justification. When we make mistakes, we must calm the cognitive dissonance that jars our feelings of self-worth. And so we create fictions that absolve us of responsibility, restoring our belief that we are smart, moral, and right—a belief that often keeps us on a course that is dumb, immoral, and wrong.Backed by years of research and delivered in lively, energetic prose, Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) offers a fascinating explanation of self-deception—how it works, the harm it can cause, and how we can overcome it.
Publish date: May 7th 2007
Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
Pages no: 304
Edition language: English
, Self Help
, Social Science
Just into the Introduction and Chapter 1 and there are already ridiculous amounts of USA politics as examples. Hellooooooooo - the rest of the world exists too you know!!I got about halfway and had to put the book down. Too much political crap and liberal diatribe with not enough substance. My ol...
"People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls." - C.G. Jung "Memory is a complicated thing, a relative to truth, but not its twin." - Barbara Kingsolver Neither of the quotes above were included in this book, but they speak to some of the ideas at its core. Anyo...
Fascinating and eye-opening analysis of cognitive dissonance and the steps we take to reduce the dissonance. Politicians are the easy targets, and exploited here as such, but Tavris & Aronson also delve into personal stories. Several of them held up a mirror to my own self-justifications and made me...