When Jill Soloway's father came out to her as transgender in his seventies, all of a sudden she had the key she'd always felt was missing--the key to understanding her family, her past, and herself. In this intimate memoir, Jill explores the modern family--the one we inherit and the one we choose--through the lens of finally understanding her father's long-held secret and the ways in which it has impacted her worldview and changed her life dramatically.

Drawing upon her challenges and successes as a filmmaker, writer, showrunner, and director, She Wants It is by turns nuanced and moving, uplifting and outrageous. Soloway, with her bold voice and incisive viewpoint, writes brilliantly on being a daughter, sister, wife, mother (single then married then divorced), and girlfriend, as she reexamines her own identity within her family and the world at large in light of her father's brave revelation. As she forges a new path as a queer woman in her fifties, she comes into her power as an artist and has all the awards to prove it. As Transparent takes the world by storm, Jill leads the charge toward toppling the patriarchy and creating a world in which everyone is safe no matter how they identify.

Pulling no punches, Soloway delves into the great loves and losses of her life, ruminates on feminism, and discusses how to inspire women to create art. All the while, she entertains with an outsider's perspective graced with insider access, writing eloquently on the evolution of the modern family and the revolution that came out of writing about her own.