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review 2018-02-25 17:48
All about Unruly Women
Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud: The Rise and Reign of the Unruly Woman - Anne Helen Petersen

This one is hard to review. It is divided into 10 sections, each naming a typical gender "problem" (like "too loud") and a famous woman representing someone who gets called out for that "problem" in the media and culture. Add opening and closing chapters that highlight the sometimes-trouble women who refuse to stay in the box cause for everyone, including many other women. Some are much better than others. I also found some things just missing, most importantly "too intelligent." In fact, the whole thing is much too centered on body issues and I find that there are at least as many stereotypical "problems" in the intellectual area. Part of the reason may, in fact, be the author's age (young) and her pop-culture background (she's a BuzzFeed writer.) As I said, within those ten chapters many only look at the issue in terms of women's bodies, and of course our bodies get attention in all of the chapters. I would have liked to see more about our minds or even better -- the way attention to our bodies gets in the way of realistic evaluation of our minds. That last one is a big quibble for me, but putting that aside there were some excellent chapters in this book.

Aside: I started to take notes on this book during the introduction, and I needed a title for said notes, so without much thought I quickly called it "too female." I wasn't trying to be clever, but by the end of the book, I realized my shortcut was precise. We are problematic because of our gender. This is a terrifying thought. More terrifying is the many women who are quick to force any of us back into our boxes when we get TOO anything (unruly is the word chosen for this,) and this book shows us ten stereotyped gender "norms" broken and ten women who have paid the price for breaking them at the same time they are celebrated for doing exactly that. In other words, we can't win? It shows us how each woman at times has sought the easier way by crawling back into the box, being a "good girl" and in turn getting praise and relief. How very sad for humanity that culture can only handle us when we're acting a certain way -- unobtrusive and obedient.

My favorite chapters were Too Loud: Jennifer Weiner and Too Strong: Serena Williams. Both chapters could be spun off into books of their own. Not necessarily all about those two women, but those two gendered "problems" for men, with the "too loud" chapter focusing on all women (Serena Williams has been called out for being too loud many times and in many ways) and a particular focus on the way society looks at black female bodies when they are "too strong." The dichotomy there is inane -- we have made magical negroes of many strong black women (SBWs, as we say in my house,) yet we don't want these women to be *too* strong. These two chapters alone are worth the whole book.

Other chapters I liked were Too Fat: Melissa McCarthy, Too Gross: Abbi Jacobson & Ilana Glazer, and Too Slutty: Nicki Minaj. The Minaj chapter interested me because I know very little about Nicki Minaj beyond her music, so I was rather fascinated to hear of all the trouble she's gotten for her disobedience in terms of being taken seriously as an artist, hard worker and anything more than a sex symbol. It was troubling. If we're supposed to be sexy as women, there certainly is a point where too sexy is a very big problem for everyone, again -- including women.

Same things can be said for Too Fat (and I'd add Too Thin there as well) as well as Too Gross. Every single woman knows what it is to have a vagina. Most men have dealt with at least one of those if not more, so why on earth must we pretend that they don't exist? Why do we have to pretend they don't do what they do? Why do women pretend not to pass gas or relieve themselves? Why did I just type that phrase instead of "fart and shit?" All questions brought to a head in the Too Gross chapter. Most interesting there was the added layer of discomfort from women about a show where two women were friends without men somehow coming in to take precedence over the women. When it was being shopped, a woman actually didn't understand the concept and asked "why would anyone watch this? Are they going to get married?" How freaking scary!


Since I first wrote this last week, I've thought about the Too Fat chapter a bit. I think maybe McCarthy wasn't the right choice. She has not been unruly in any way beyond her weight. She has, the chapter points out, been quick to tame herself in myriad ways. So perhaps someone like Roxane Gay, Lindy West or another woman from the Fat Positive world would have been a better choice.

I could go on about any of the chapters mentioned above. They call into sharp focus the issues society slaps women down for again and again, and the careful way in which every woman sometimes has to side-step to get around her own personality, so she can continue to do what she loves.

More disappointing were Too Old: Madonna, which wasn't really about ageism more about Madonna trying to outrun her own age. I felt something akin to real snark in this chapter and thought it was an instance of a woman slapping down another woman for being the way she is. Why not simply find a woman that society has bucked because she got too old rather than pile on to the already large pile atop Madonna? Perhaps, again, this was the writer's age getting in the way of real understanding about aging as a woman in today's culture?

Also somewhat redundant to things already said and shown better were Too Pregnant: Kim Kardashian and Too Naked: Lena Dunham. Too Pregnant is most a rehash of Too Gross with a different person and Too Naked could be summed up by stating "Nudity is fine, so long as the men decide who gets nude in public." She tries to make some statements about nudity vs nakedness (and she puts this down to "body type" Dunham is naked b/c she's not shaped like nude people? How is that feminist or body positive?) She goes on the long thing that any woman knows: only recently in history and in the West have we decided thin is in, but it loses credibility pretty fast with me. None of it is wrong. All of it feels super-redundant after all the other body chapters we've had. We had too gross, too old, too fat...

Then we have just plain disappointing chapters: Too Queer: Caitlyn Jenner and Too Shrill: Hillary Clinton. The Clinton chapter was disappointing because it left out far too much and didn't feel like it encapsulated the actual issues with Hillary Clinton. Too Shrill is often the word used for intelligence or anger or a variety of other adjectives. She's certainly the best example of Too Shrill, but something was lacking here. It's a book-sized important problem, so maybe a single chapter was bound to leave something to be desired.


Too Queer was odd because why pick Caitlyn Jenner? Also because she picked Caitlyn Jenner, the only real point made was if you're already in a dominant, privileged position (rich, white, male) then you stay dominant and can miss a lot of the issues even after you've entered another position. OK, but certainly there are women who are called Too Queer and even some women who are queer who have done a lot to try to distract us from that. Caitlyn Jenner has not been smacked down in the way any of the other women in this book have. In fact, it seems almost the opposite, so why pick her? 

All in all though, I liked this book. When it was good, it was very very good ;) It was interesting and thought-provoking, and it may get a larger audience because of the pop culture slant it's taken on these issues. She points to real problems in every chapter, whether they were better or worse, and it could serve as a starting point for many people, male and female, who don't realize how society wants women to stay quiet and obedient and pretty and nice. All in all a worthwhile read.

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review 2017-07-02 00:00
Born of Water: An Elemental Origins Novel
Born of Water: An Elemental Origins Novel - A.L. Knorr,Christine Gordon Manley,Shandi Petersen Targa has a secret - her mom is a mermaid. And though the mermaid gene is supposed to pass from mother to daughter, Targa is just a regular human.

With summer's approach, Targa and her friends will be parting ways, all headed to different countries. But Targa's trip to Poland with her mom and mom's dive team turns out to be anything but a typical summer tourism trip.

Loved this mermaid story. The details of mermaid anatomy are incredible, and even the "info dumps" feel like so much a part of the story that they're not tedious or tiresome.

Even better, this book is part of a series, and it seems that all of Targa's friends have something are a little ... different. :)

So glad I snapped this book up!

And if you like YA mermaid stories, you might also enjoy [b:Shearwater|33151578|Shearwater (Ocean Depths, #1)|D.S. Murphy|https://images.gr-assets.com/books/1480445224s/33151578.jpg|48806820] and [b:Skye's Lure|35231755|Skye's Lure A Clean YA Fantasy for those who enjoy The Little Mermaid|Angel Leya|https://images.gr-assets.com/books/1495862612s/35231755.jpg|47863623].
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text 2017-06-29 20:00
Books I want
Take That, Adolf!: The Fighting Comic Books Of The Second World War - Mark Fertig,Jack Kirby,Will Eisner
Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud: The Rise and Reign of the Unruly Woman - Anne Helen Petersen

My sister handed me that first book, saying she wants it back.   I want to keep it.  I may splurge on it as a paper back book.   Barnes and Noble doesn't have it, so Amazon may be getting my business for this.


I flipped through this book and went, 'oh, shit, is this just punching Hitler in the face?'


To which my sister gleefully responded, 'yes, yes, it is.'   Of course, I was more gleeful about it.   Keep in mind, one half of my family was almost nearly wiped out by Hitler, and thus my sister and I believe that, say, punching nazis in the face is okay.   (I was worried, because she's a better person than I am, but her belief is also that they spout genocide and thus seeing Richard Spencer punched in the face to music is a thing of beauty.)


I want a copy of this book, dammit.   I do.   It's twenty bucks, though, and I can always borrow my sister's book for now.   (She let me have first read so this will be the priority this weekend.   It's mostly covers about comics set in WW2.   And, no, not all of the covers are punching Hitler, or nazis, in the face centric, but there are enough to make me go swoon-y over this.)


I saw Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud for the first time today about the rise of outspoken women, women who don't conform to the perception of what they should be.   Too gross, too pregnant, too queer, and I believe too rude are also plastered across the cover, although not part of the title.  


I was pretty much absent yesterday doing emotional wellbeing recovery things.   Watching Netflix - oddly enough, 13 Reasons Why calmed me down, and I now want to read the book which I hear is way better, playing games, just trying to breathe and not have a panic attack.   Thus I am still just as behind on reviews, and got very little reading done.   When I was present, I was sullen and withdrawn.  I think the whole buying a bathing suit didn't help: it reminds me of my body, makes me more present in my body, and it's not about being too fat.   It's about no matter how skinny I was, it's still meat, and I find organic life... um... too gross.   I've been reeling from doing this yesterday.  I've been too freaked out by water for a decade to take a bath - something I've managed to do recently, so progress - so I haven't had to go shopping for suits.   So that's ten years of not having to go through this grueling process that is an exercise in hatred of my body, futility, nihilism and not being able to find a comfortable top that fucking supports boobs. I already had a bottom and I have a rash guard shirt - UPF, made for the water - so I'll wear that.   Contemplating getting swim pants, but, ugh, expensive, and I want to see if I can make it. 


If anyone has suggestions, much appreciated.   Right now, I'm thinking a skirt wrap thing, and seeing if I can go in the water with that.   Although I might just go in the bikini and see what happens.   After all, I want to start swimming again - I used to love it! - and this will acclimate me.   I also have free access to the pool at school, yay, so I should get used to showing off my fat, gross body.   Maybe this book will help me cope with that, though. Or maybe not.   Someone suggested parading around in the bottoms until then, just to get used to it, and I'm thinking that might be best!  I've been walking a lot, and I want to swim, not to get slimmer so much as to feel healthier.   


Anyway, explanation of my going away yesterday.   I'm going to a friend's house to watch TV, although I'll try to get some comic reading in while he changes DVDs/under covers if it gets too boring.   Prolly not since we're hopefully watching more of The Maxx.  I will try to catch up on reviews in the next couple days, although I may wait until the weekend and flood you with like twenty or thirty reviews.   I know, right, cringe.  I'll try not to do that for you.   Little nervous today, but much better.   (Getting my oil changed because I remembered I needed it and panicked helped, and the guys at the place are go to are fucking amazing.)  


I don't have time to post the pic right now, but I've acquired a Black Bolt funko.   Yass.   I will most definitely post one of him and DD and some special guys all at once in a post in the future.   Hopefully tonight as a reward for getting through reviews, maybe tomorrow as a reward for getting through reviews.   Because I'll get to play with my guys!   (Yeah, yeah, I tend to focus on guys.   It's an attraction thing.   I'm not cutting women out of the equation, but I skew towards guys, mostly because I like 'em violent, and dumb, and well... tends to be guys.   Y'know what?   I just skew towards them.   Throw me some Virginia - Vision is not her last name - or some Arcee or Windblade or Nautica, and I'll bite, but I skew towards dudes.)

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text 2016-10-28 12:59
[Wochenend-Lesetipp] Wie wäre es mit "The Playlist" von Lea Petersen

Guten Morgen ihr Lieben,

endlich Freitag und das Wochenende kann beginnen. Ich hab auch einige spannende und erotische Buchvorschläge für euch.
Kennt ihr "The Playlist" von Lea Petersen.

Zwei Bände wurden in eine Gesamtausgabe gepackt und diese gibt es jetzt sogar als Taschenbuch im Handel oder in den verschiedensten Onlineshops.

ISBN: 978-3-95573-361-2
Preis: 6,99 Euro [E-Book]
         14,99 Euro [Print]

Von Kerlen hat Maxine erst mal genug, als sie das Jobangebot aus ihrer Traumstadt New York annimmt. Doch kaum in den USA angekommen, schlittert sie in eine heiße Affäre mit keinem
Geringeren als Devon Devereaux, dem begehrtesten Junggesellen der East Coast!
Devon ist hin und weg von der üppigen Brünetten mit den heißen Kurven. Die beiden verbringen leidenschaftliche Stunden miteinander, der Sex bringt Maxine zu ungeahnten Höhepunkten. Doch den attraktiven Milliardär umweht ein dunkles Geheimnis, und genau daran droht alles zu zerbrechen...

Nur in der Gesamtausgabe bekommt ihr exklusives Bonusmaterial. Lasst euch also überraschen.

Wer natürlich die Buchreihe einzel lesen möchte, kann dies natürlich auch.

Band 1: The Playlist

Von Kerlen hat Maxine erst mal genug, als sie das Jobangebot aus ihrer Traumstadt New York annimmt. Doch kaum in den USA angekommen, schlittert sie in eine heiße Affäre mit keinem Geringeren als Devon Devereaux, dem begehrtesten Junggesellen der East Coast! Devon ist hin und weg von der üppigen Brünetten mit den heißen Kurven. Die beiden verbringen leidenschaftliche Stunden miteinander, der harte Sex bringt Maxine zu ungeahnten Höhepunkten ...
Der attraktive Milliardär besteht auf strengster Geheimhaltung und macht Maxine deutlich klar: Mehr als Sex ist nicht drin! Doch dann entwickelt Devon zum ersten Mal in seinem Leben tiefere Gefühle für eine Frau, aber wenn er eine richtige Beziehung mit ihr will, muss er Maxine sein dunkelstes Geheimnis verraten, und daran würde alles zerbrechen ...


Band 2: The Playlist 2

Maxine ist im siebten Himmel: Aus der Affäre mit Devon Devereaux, dem begehrtesten Junggesellen der East Coast, hat sich in den letzten Wochen eine wundervolle Beziehung entwickelt. Schritt für Schritt öffnet sich der einst so gefühlskalte Milliardär ihr mehr, Verträge und strenge Geheimhaltung sind Vergangenheit. Und auch im Bett können die beiden nicht genug voneinander bekommen. Dominant entführt Devon die Brünette mit den üppigen Kurven in immer neue aufregende Spielfelder der Lust... Doch als Maxine beruflich für einige Tage nach Los Angeles muss, hat Devon gleich ein ungutes Gefühl. Und in L.A. passiert genau das, was niemals hätte passieren dürfen, und danach scheint diese ganz besondere Liebe keine Zukunft mehr zu haben ...

Ich wünsche euch ein schönes Wochenende mit Maxine und Devon. 
Eure Beate 
Source: beatelovelybooks.blogspot.de/2016/10/wochenend-lesetipp-wie-ware-es-mit.html
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text 2016-10-13 07:13
[Serienvorstellung] Lea Petersen - Superstar in Love

Hey ihr Lieben,

Superstar in Love ist die aufregende Liebesgeschichte von Milia und El Niño – neu erzählt aus der Sicht des Superstars! Wer die „El Nino“-Bände von Lea Petersen aus Sicht von Milia verschlungen hat, wird auch Superstar in Love lieben!
Doch die zwei Bände Superstar in Love sind auch für sich eine abgeschlossene Geschichte.

Band 1: Superstar in Love - Grenzenlose Versuchung 

Titel: Superstar in Love - Grenzenlose Versuchung
Serie: Superstar in Love Band 1
Autorin: Lea Petersen
Verlag: Klarant Verlag
Erschienen: Juni 2016
Genre: Erotik
Seitenzahl: 487 Seiten
Ausgabe: E-Book

ISBN: 9783955734350
Preis: 3,99 Euro





Der berühmte Latinorapper El Niño ist hin und weg. Auf der After-Show-Party seines eigenen Konzerts trifft er Milia und fühlt sich von ihren üppigen Kurven und ihrer direkten Art sofort magisch angezogen. Es kommt zu einem heißen Flirt, aber an einem One-Night-Stand ist diese faszinierende Frau nicht interessiert. Dafür steckt sie ihm ihre Nummer zu ...
Der charismatische amerikanische Superstar könnte jede haben, doch Milia kann er einfach nicht vergessen. Ein leidenschaftliches Abenteuer beginnt, der sinnliche Latinlover lädt Milia zu aufregenden Sexmeetings ein an den luxuriösesten Orten der Welt. Tag für Tag wird ihm klarer: Diese Frau ist für ihn etwas ganz Besonderes. Doch es gibt ein Problem – El Niño ist längst verlobt, und durch einen Zufall erfährt Milia davon ...

Band 2: Superstar in Love - einander verfallen 

Titel: Superstar in Love - einander verfallen
Serie: Superstar in Love Band 2
Autorin: Lea Petersen
Verlag: Klarant Verlag
Erschienen: Juli 2016
Genre: Erotik
Seitenzahl: 420 Seiten
Ausgabe: E-Book

ISBN: 9783955734749
Preis: 3,99 Euro






El Niño, der berühmte amerikanische Latinorapper, kann sein neues Leben selbst kaum begreifen. Er – der berüchtigte Womanizer, der nie genug Frauen haben konnte – ist einer einzigen Frau bedingungslos verfallen! Milias üppige Kurven bringen ihn wie am Anfang ihrer Beziehung um den Verstand, mit ihr lebt der sinnliche Latinlover die wildesten sexuellen Fantasien aus. Und Milias direkte, humorvolle Art ist einfach nur faszinierend...
Das gemeinsame Leben in Miami scheint perfekt, wäre da nicht dieses stechende Gefühl der Eifersucht. Moudi – El Niños bester Freund und Assistent – versteht sich mit Milia blendend, und die sehnsüchtigen Blicke, die Moudi ihr zuwirft, gefallen dem dominanten Superstar gar nicht …

Genau die richtige Leküre bei diesem Schmuddelwetter. Viel Vergnügen mit den Beiden.

Eure Beate

Source: beatelovelybooks.blogspot.de/2016/10/serienvorstellung-lea-petersen.html
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