1. Stupid Secrets Withholding important information for fear of rejection 2. Stupid Egotism Asking not what you can do for the relationship but only what the relationship can do for you 3. Stupid Pettiness Making a big deal out of the small stuff 4. Stupid Power Always trying to be in control 5. Stupid Priorities Consuming all your time and energies with work, hobbies, errands, and chores instead of focusing on your relationship 6. Stupid Happiness Seeking stimulation and assurance from all the wrong places to satisfy the immature need to feel good 7. Stupid Excuses Not being accountable for bad behavior 8. Stupid Liaisons Not letting go of negative attachments to friends and relatives who are damaging to your relationship 9. Stupid Mismatch Not knowing when to leave and cut your losses 10. Stupid Breakups Disconnection for all the wrong reasons