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With or Without You - Domenica Ruta
With or Without You
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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLERA haunting, unforgettable mother-daughter story for a new generation—the debut of a blazing new lyrical voice   Domenica Ruta grew up in a working-class, unforgiving town north of Boston, in a trash-filled house on a dead-end road surrounded by a river and a salt marsh.... show more
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLERA haunting, unforgettable mother-daughter story for a new generation—the debut of a blazing new lyrical voice   Domenica Ruta grew up in a working-class, unforgiving town north of Boston, in a trash-filled house on a dead-end road surrounded by a river and a salt marsh. Her mother, Kathi, a notorious local figure, was a drug addict and sometimes dealer whose life swung between welfare and riches, and whose highbrow taste was at odds with her hardscrabble life. And yet she managed, despite the chaos she created, to instill in her daughter a love of stories. Kathi frequently kept Domenica home from school to watch such classics as the Godfather movies and everything by Martin Scorsese and Woody Allen, telling her, “This is more important. I promise. You’ll thank me later.” And despite the fact that there was not a book to be found in her household, Domenica developed a love of reading, which helped her believe that she could transcend this life of undying grudges, self-inflicted misfortune, and the crooked moral code that Kathi and her cohorts lived by.   With or Without You is the story of Domenica Ruta’s unconventional coming of age—a darkly hilarious chronicle of a misfit ’90s youth and the necessary and painful act of breaking away, and of overcoming her own addictions and demons in the process. In a brilliant stylistic feat, Ruta has written a powerful, inspiring, compulsively readable, and finally redemptive story about loving and leaving.   Praise for With or Without You  “Stunning . . . comes across as a bleaker, funnier, R-rated version of The Glass Castle.”—Entertainment Weekly   “A singular new coming-of-age memoir traces one girl’s twisting path up from the mean streets (and parents) to the reflective life of a writer. . . . The burgeoning canon of literary memoir—spiked with a generous pour of 12-step-program confessional—begets another winner in Domenica Ruta’s searing With or Without You. . . . In spite of the glaring deficits in her life, Ruta was born ‘with a wolfish appetite for the printed word.’ . . . Luckily, her word addiction kept progressing until she had all the tools she needed to create this gloriously gutsy memory-work.”—Elle   “The intensity of the clear-eyed manner in which Ruta conveys her abiding frustration with the parents who failed their child so casually and monumentally is exceedingly powerful stuff.”—Booklist   “Valiant and heartbreaking.”—BUST magazine“Powerful . . . wicked funny . . . Ruta writes with unflinching honesty.”—Slate“Too often the memoir category sacrifices good writing to the quick pulse of the storyline, but Domenica Ruta is a real and excellent writer who has language by the throat. She writes with big beauty, deep respect for language, and drives her story with huge humanism, empathy, and humor.”—Gabrielle Hamilton“In the world of memoir, Mary Karr’s and Geoffrey Wolff’s exceptional books burn and brighten, like actual stars among strings of tinsel. With or Without You is like that. I will read whatever Domenica Ruta writes.”—Amy Bloom   “ ‘Make it new,’ Ezra Pound directed, and Domenica Ruta has. Difficult childhoods are plentiful, the talent to transform adversity into art in short supply. Unflinching in its regard, forgiving in its humor, With or Without You is that rare thing, a story you think you know transformed into one you have to read to the end.”—Kathryn Harrison
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Format: hardcover
ISBN: 9780812993240
Publisher: Random House, Inc.
Pages no: 224
Edition language: English
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I'll think of a damn title later
I'll think of a damn title later rated it
3.0 With or Without You: A Memoir
3.5 stars. We could all tell stories about our childhood and our parents that would send people reeling. Still, there are people who have gone through a hellish upbringing, one most of us couldn't even fathom. Domenica Ruta is one of those people.Kathy Ruta, the author's mother, is a very troubled w...
Chris Blocker
Chris Blocker rated it
0.0 With or Without You
There are books people need to get out. Personal works written to someone they love or hate that perhaps should stay personal. Often this is my reaction when I read a memoir. Nice story, but why? Especially when the writer has obvious talent I can't help but question him or her. Why not fictionalize...
lisa's reviews
lisa's reviews rated it
1.0
I think it's just me, that I am sick of memoirs, and I need to back off reading them. After reading Her and Chanel Bonfire, I really don't care to hear anymore about messed up childhoods and the women who rose above them. I didn't feel like this memoir took me anywhere. I was just reading the aut...
52 Book Minimum
52 Book Minimum rated it
2.0
2.5 Stars. This was recommended to me since I was mesmerized by The Glass Castle. Welllllll, they're both memoirs written by women with jacked up childhoods, but that's where the similarities end. Domenica Ruta gives you enough info to let you know her life sucked (addict for a mother, molested, ...
What I Happen to Be Reading At the Moment
What I Happen to Be Reading At the Moment rated it
3.0
Another gem recommended to me by Powell's Indiespensable, and while at times I was frustrated with the memoirist, With or Without You fits in to the perfect medium between historical figure memoir and tell-all. Domenica Ruta chooses to open her memoir with a scene where she is riding in a car with h...
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