I've already returned this book to the library, so I'm going to have to rely on my memory for what to say about it. Lux Alptraum is someone I follow on twitter and when I found out that my library had a copy of the book she had just written I basically jumped at the chance to read it.
Alptraum explains that part of reason for writing this book was looking at the reasons for the reactions to Hillary Clinton and Donald Trump (I'll confess I'm tired and I drew a blank at his name for a couple seconds and almost called him Orange-Face) during the lead-up to the last US Presidential election. She doesn't spend her time dissecting the election though, fortunately, and mostly looks at what kinds of lies women are known for telling, the statistics of those kinds of lies for both women and men, and the reasons for which women (and men) might lie, particularly about sex and relationships.
Some of it I had seen before in different packages but there was enough of a different perspective that I found the book enlightening, particularly with regards to the urban design of cities being geared towards the commuting man and how women in public can be seen as trespassing into men's sphere (because of the archaic notion that her place is in the home) by simply going out into to public and thus be assumed to be fair game to any man who decides to approach her. This explains a lot about some of my personal experiences with being approached in public places; I mean, I've been interrupted in the park while listening to an audiobook and trying to enjoy the sun. Sure, these notions are out-dated, but Alptraum points out that men's viewpoints on these things haven't changed nearly as quickly as women's.
There was one point where I was rather frustrated by this dating consultant that Alptraum interviewed who insisted that what women wanted was a confident man and basically completely dismissed her initial response to his question (when asked what women wanted in a man, she suggested a good conversationalist, I think) because it didn't fit his world view. It was kinda funny, in sad way. Anyway, just in case any guys are reading this who are actually willing to listen to me, don't listen to those people (mostly men, let's be honest) who claim that what women want is a confident man who will sweep her off her feet when he takes up her time without permission. Just don't. Be an adult and be respectful of women's time. We're not giving strangers permission to walk up to us just because we're in a public space (there is an exception of course for social events where it is a reasonable social proposition to walk up to relative strangers, but don't be jerks about it).
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