Title: The Little Girl Inside: Owning My Role in My Own Pain

Author:  Tonya Barbee

Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform

Reviewed By:  Arlena Dean

Rating:  Five

Review:

"The Little Girl Inside:  Owning my Role in my Own Pain" by Tonya Barbee

My Thoughts....

What a interesting true story of how this author [Tonya] came out of this situation that so many a person can also be found in ..drifting and only wanted what we all want and that is to be truly loved.  I found this story definitely being one that can help others in so many different ways.  The novel explains it all so well in the twenty-eight chapters.  I loved how the chapters were short and very much on point of what that subject was concerning that particular chapter.

So this is what was up when she listened to that little girl inside her as many of us do whether we want to admit it or not.  Some of it may be good but for the most part of it all...it was bad especially when it came to her relationships.  After four failed marriages would she finally get the answers she so desperately needed?  Would she ever find someone like her father...which she adored and coming from a good family?  What about her 'Dreams and Hopes' as only she wanted was to be loved as it seems like her father gave to her family.  Well, as this story goes on we learn about Sir Knight, Sr Charming, the Playmate, Officer Wrong and now we either the Internet date [Sir Intellectual].  Now, that will be quite a story of how her best friend  Naomi enter the picture and things will take a turn from that situation. From that situation she meets Gaines and I will truly say her life will never be the same with this person.  At this point I kept wondering didn't Gaines story sound weird but as you will see that little girl kept listening to just what she wanted to hear.  I don't want to spoil it and tell too much of the story but I hope that you will pick up this read and see just how this author will bring it out so well to the readers. Yes, this is a true  story!  Will Tonya [by the way as I write this review the her and she is named Tonya] ever come to the realization that only she will be able to stop this situation that is going on in her life.  Yes, she has been hurt so much but Tonya now was on her fourth marriage and it was time to wake up and realize that that inner voice of that little girl should be saying that it was time to grow up, mature and only then would hope come.

What got me as I read this story was that several people around Tonya knew exactly what Sir Intellectual was all about...but one person told her...this was when the house they were to buy went down hill.

"I wanted you to have this house because I knew you would take care of it, give it love and restore it to the beautiful place that it once was....But if you think for one moment you will make it with that so-called man you call a husband, you have another thing coming.  That man doesn't love anyone except himself.  He is a liar, a cheater, dishonest, and you can do much better than him."

Did she listen? NO!

Thank God for the 'Retreat' from the church that seemed really to help Tonya get her life together.

In the end will Tonya be able to not 'implement the perfect family in wanting to give her children the father figure that had always met so much to her?  Will Tonya learn to just treasure what she already has?  Will that little girl inside of Tonya have a 'tranquil spirit and be content just where she is and seek God's blessings for every move she makes?'

I loved the ending of this read..

"Never give up. Love yourself and embrace your mistakes and learn from them...Keep smiling and be grateful. It starts with you taking the first step to own up to your own pain. God will help you from there?'

This is definitely a novel I would recommend to all women. Indeed it would be a great help for all who listens to that little girl as she is speaking and definitely being able to learn from ones past own mistakes!

Thank you to the author for the gift of the read for my sharing my honest opinion of the read.