. . . Because of the book, Exit by Thomas Davidson, which I have almost finished.
Over the weekend, I heard an interview with Jon Ronson (The Men Who Stare At Goats) and I had added the book to my TBR; but now that I'm reading Exit I'm moving Ronson's to the top. The conversation was thought-provoking and apropos. Many of us have experienced or witnessed the phenomena of social shaming on public media.
For the past three years, Jon Ronson has travelled the world meeting recipients of high-profile public shamings. The shamed are people like us - people who, say, made a joke on social media that came out badly, or made a mistake at work. Once their transgression is revealed, collective outrage circles with the force of a hurricane and the next thing they know they're being torn apart by an angry mob, jeered at, demonized, sometimes even fired from their job.
A great renaissance of public shaming is sweeping our land. Justice has been democratized. The silent majority are getting a voice. But what are we doing with our voice? We are mercilessly finding people's faults. We are defining the boundaries of normality by ruining the lives of those outside it. We are using shame as a form of social control.
Simultaneously powerful and hilarious in the way only Jon Ronson can be, So You've Been Publicly Shamed is a deeply honest book about modern life, full of eye-opening truths about the escalating war on human flaws - and the very scary part we all play in it.
One example he mentioned in the program was a scene in a restaurant. At one table is a woman having drinks with friends. Behind her is a table of men drinking beer and exchanging dirty jokes. One of the women takes a picture of one of the men, and sends a Tweet with the opinion that the men are acting like mysogonists (that's a big paraphrase -- I can't remember the exact message.). Anyway, the Tweet went viral; people who knew the man saw the Tweet, and when the man returned to work on Monday, he was fired.
The story didn't have a happy ending for the woman either, she received hate messages and death threats for months afterwards.
The moral of the story is: well, you all know what it is.
(Update -- not quite next on my list after all. I'm on the library waiting list. Looks like it will be a few weeks.)
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so I said no more updates on Exit, but now I'm cheating and tacking it on to my announcement of Next Book To Read. Obviously, this is where you skip it if you're tired of them:
In Exit, two people who have done nothing wrong are being persecuted by social media because of circumstances over which they have no control. They are set up and falsely accused, and the entire world is jumping on the bandwagon.
an acquaintance who lives on the floor below them adds this to her Facebook page:
Don't know about anyone else, but I live below two terrorists. You see the news today? 2 terorists from Cambridge? That’s them. Her name is Rain. Yeah, Rain. Cringe, cringe, cringe. I don’t know her boyfriend’s name. Never asked, never bothered, never cared. But those 2 are all effed up. This morning I went 2 my parked car behind my bldg, 2 go 2 work (confession: I have a job), and saw them sleeping in their car!!! Its like uh November? Cold? Or should I say Novembrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr????? And she wakes up and wipes the steamy window, makes a circle and looks out. I was like OMG sh’es crazy. It gets better. When I come home from work, there’s like 2 signs in her upstairs windows. U can see it from the street. Get ready…signs sez…”WARNING These Premses are Protectd by CLOSED CIRCUIT TV 24 Hour Video Recording.” Yeah, honey, in yr dreams. The other sign sez…”WARNING All Supicious Persons & Actvities Are Immediately Reported to Our NEIGHBORHOOD WITCH.” Rain is an artist. ‘Artist’ is a polite way of saying ‘Hey world, I’m a effin’ nutjob.’ Artist? How about Fartist? LOL! Honey, u a terrorist. Like I said, I live right next floor to 2 FAMOUS TERORISTS. HEY WORLD – HER NAMES RAIN MOORE!!! RAIN RHYMES WITH INSANE!!! SHE’S THE NEIGHBORHOOD WITCH!!!
EXactly the kind of sensationalism that gets you noticed and shared, but also passing on a total lie, because you accepted at face value what you saw on other media.
Social Responsibility is a responsibility. (She said smugly.)