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review 2017-02-22 13:59
If you follow her on social media then it's nothing new.
I'm Judging You: The Do-Better Manual - Luvvie Ajayi

I'm actually relatively new to Ajayi, only having recently read her stuff on social media. I came across a fantastic thread and the points she made in it and thought one way to support her work was to read this since it was (luckily) readily available from my local library. Great!

 

I can't say I was too excited or interested. There are parts that had me nodding my head, agreeing with her writing, etc. If you enjoy chatting about everyday life, feel some catharsis at an author calling out people (in the vein of "that friend" who takes up your time and never returns the favor for example), then this might be a good book for you.

 

But I agree with what others say: there's nothing that's new, nothing insightful. It's not unlike a conversation you might have with friends or co-workers but this sort of thing works better (in my opinion) over drinks or when just shooting the breeze. Some of the sections are far too long and become too "chatty."

 

But as I said, I wanted to support the author in some way as well as by increasing my library's circulation numbers (even if only by a little bit!). I'll still follow her work and on Twitter but I wouldn't recommend this book unless you can borrow it or REALLY love her writing.

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text 2016-12-04 04:37
Love transcending
The Story Hour - Thrity Umrigar

In the Story Hour, an arrange marriage finds Lakshmi, a woman from a small town in India, working in her husband's restaurant in the American midwest. She is exhausted, unhappy, isolated. She attempts suicide and comes under the care of Maggie, a psychologist and African American.

 

Maggie is married to an Indian, Sudhir, who came as a student and stayed on to become a professor and American citizen.

 

Maggie and Lakshmi are from different cultures, have different family dynamics but their similarities as women, indeed as human beings transcends the patient doctor relationship and finds them becoming friends.

 

Gradually understanding grows and with Maggie's help and guidance economic disparity between the two diminishes.

 

But when secrets are revealed both judge each other unfairly in the most part because, despite their affection for each other, it's impossible for each to overcome the biases ingrained by culture.

 

The relationship seems irreparably damaged but one woman is prepared to risk everything for make it right again.

 

Author Thrity Umrigar really shines a light on how our background and different cultures frame the way we see ourselves, our fellow human beings and the world around us. It's also a realistic, compassionate and hopeful look at the lives of millions of immigrant women from third world countries who come to reside in the west.

 

The story has depth, humour, passion and compassion and remarkable insight. A true novel for the twenty-first century.

 

 

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text 2016-02-02 07:53
Finished — Stolen Chances: Ughhh this book was terrible
Stolen Chances - Elisabeth Naughton,Elizabeth Wiley

I mean terrible. 

 

Besides the the hero forgiving the heroine immediately it turned into a schmaltzy love must conquer hate! mess. It drove me nuts. And of course it was all coming from the asshole heroine. OMG, let him go, for us, our love must overcome his hate, nevermind he'll keep coming after us OOPS he kidnapped me again! Argh!

 

Then, of course, a ton of time was spent with the hero and heroine together being all lovey-dovey like I give a good god damn. The man list eight years of his daughter's life I WANT TO SEE THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN FATHER AND DAUGHTER!!!!! Instead she was barely in the rest of the book.

 

*SEETHES*

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text 2016-01-31 22:31
Seven Hours – Fuck your secret baby stories!
Stolen Chances - Elisabeth Naughton,Elizabeth Wiley

Seriously, it is the worst trope out there. The only thing I can think of that is worse is the falling-in-love-with-her-rapist trope. I would like to take all the secret baby books, put them in a pile, and make a huge bonfire.

 

The heroines in these stories are flaming trash piles, with few exceptions. Terrible human beings, and yet I'm supposed to believe in an HEA let alone root for one?

 

The heroine in this book is no different. Terrible excuses for not telling the hero when she could. And had the nerve to sleep with him before being forced to come clean! Coupled with the heap of other lies she was keeping. I know I'm supposed to be horrified that the villain knocked her the fuck out. But seriously I was just glad someone did what I had been aching to reach through my speakers and do. Because that'll be the only comeuppance she gets. 

 

Of course, much like all the other heroes in these stories he comes up reasons to forgive her. He understands her lame-ass reasons, and even takes blame upon himself. Gaaaaahhhh! *rips out hair* All so they can end up together when they shouldn't. I always wish the heroine would die or just fuck off in some way that the hero can claim his child and they can live happily ever after.

 

I hate this trope so much. HATE. The story for me becomes all about what the hero has missed in his child's life. He never gets any justice for that. It's never an HEA for me.

 

New rule: I flounce the hell out of secret baby books instead of trying to power through. The rage isn't worth it. I may stick around long enough to ascertain what the heroine did to try and find/notify the hero. But if it's not enough, or later she doesn't tell him when she has the opportunity I'm out.

 

To add insult to injury in this book the sex was so graphic. I liked this series because they were decent romantic suspense, light on sex and not graphic. Actual romance sex scenes. Then somewhere between the second and third book "cock" became Naughton's favorite word —judging by how much she uses it in her PNR series — and so now it is said constantly in this book. It's obnoxious as fuck. Romance doesn't need such graphic euphmisims. 

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review 2015-11-25 00:00
Sex and Punishment: Four Thousand Years of Judging Desire
Sex and Punishment: Four Thousand Years of Judging Desire - Eric Berkowitz Interesting look at Sex and the control of it over the years. Starts with ancient history and moves to the late 19th early 20th century. It concentrates on western culture and the effect Christianity had on pre-existing European culture after looking at Classical Greek and Roman society. A mess was made of various societies by the attempt to control people and their reactions to people they are attracted to.

Sex and sexuality is complicated and we still haven't resolved a lot of our issues with it but this is an interesting romp through 4000 years of judging desire.
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