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text 2022-05-04 05:58
A Guide to Couples Therapy - What you Should Know


You should go for a therapist visit when you’re not in any real crisis yet. This is of course rarely the case, since you are far more likely to look for help when you’re neck-deep in trouble. Since we’re all busy in our daily lives, good help is hard to schedule.


You should at the very least consider the possibility of therapy when your relationship is ailing. More couples should reach out for therapy before a catastrophic problem is encountered. Couples counselling is a great resource to fall back on if you’re going through a hard time. You can find strength in it, finding a safer way forward with your relationship, or providing ongoing support to resolve whatever issues are holding you back.


Couples going through counselling can find it prevents things from deteriorating. If you and your partner are going through it, you will be in a much better position to resolve your issues going forward. This will happen without being at each other’s throats. You won’t have the added pressure of having to find a therapist in a hurry, and you won’t have to worry about finding one that clicks with you. 


How Do You Find a Therapist?


This may be one of the hardest things to do. You should dedicate some time, specifically a couple of weeks or even months and see at least a few different ones to get a sense of things. Before you start, you should talk to your partner about it, as this is something that affects both of you. You need to figure out the kind of therapist they’re looking for, as well as factors you both find important going forward. You need to synchronise things so your schedules won’t clash with the sessions.


You should ask around and see about getting a referral if you can. See if your friends don’t know anyone they are happy with. You can ask a trusted medical professional, like your primary care physician or your OB/GYN. If you’ve ever been in individual therapy, you can simply ask your therapist about recommending someone who handles couples.


You can look up websites like Psychology Today, where most therapists will pay for listings, and it may also give you a chance to narrow down the search based on language, gender, speciality, location and more. Depending on where you live, you may have a local association of therapists working online that you can contact. Even if a therapist doesn’t exactly have a massive presence online, that doesn’t mean they’re bad at their job. Sometimes they get more than enough business through simple word-of-mouth and are plenty busy without having to advertise or even make their website.


You Should Keep an Open Mind


You should have a mental checklist of what you’re looking for in a therapist, but you should also allow yourself a chance to think outside of that. You don’t know what it will feel like to be in the room with your significant other and the therapist before you’re there. Both of you need to feel comfortable and respected in that professional environment for things to work.


Common Couples Therapies


Many counsellors are trained in various ways of therapy and will adapt your treatment based on your situation. The three most commonly established ones are the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Imago Relationship Therapy. There are other nuances, sometimes even hypnosis may be used, specific types of sex therapy and more, but those three are the most commonly used. 


©Zoe Clews & Associates

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text 2022-04-06 06:37
The Most Important Responsibilities of a Management Company


Before you decide to hire a property management company, you must know the kinds of tasks they work on, and how they focus on things like tenant disputes and rent collection. The following points will cover the basic responsibilities of property managers:


Handle Marketing and Leasing


When you hire a management company for the first time, they will need to do an initial walkthrough of your home, something which may include recommendations on things you should update or repair to improve its chances. The recommendations are there to improve your home, making sure you can attract better tenants and reduce long vacancies. There may be a need for crucial repairs to bring the home to comply with regulations, such as smoke alarms and door locks, so keep that in mind as well.


There should be examples of the types of photos the management company may use on their website. The photos should showcase the rooms with good lighting, allowing potential tenants to explore them without setting foot inside. Property management companies must also have skills in setting the right amount of rent for the area. Good companies are running rental analyses that break down what the home must rent for and the reasons behind that.


Selecting and Screening Your Tenants


Property managers are there to also screen prospective tenants. This means they will run credit checks, background checks, rental reference checks and so forth. This helps find the best tenants for your property. Some companies will choose the best from a handful of applicants, while others go for the first available candidate that fits the bill. 


The more established management properties out there have written rental criteria when it comes to choosing tenants. This document is written down and it allows you, the owner and the tenants to see why they were chosen or not. It also decreases the chances of any claims of a Fair Housing violation if the property manager can point out the published criteria for application denial.


Collecting Rent and Handling Accounting


The management company will also be responsible for rent collection from your tenants. The companies will have a specified property accountant handling that role. They will be there to deal with the responsibilities and make sure that people are paying on time and enforce late fees if they must.


Should any tenants refuse to pay rent, then the company will be handling the eviction process as well. They will also handle the legal matters attached to that process. Once the rent is paid, they will also deduct the portion of the sum that goes to them for a management fee, the miscellaneous charges for repair fees and so forth. The remainder of the sum goes to you. Most companies will have a statement with the deposit that shows the expenses for every month.


Handling Maintenance


Property managers also handle the maintenance of all your properties. This means any initial repairs and the improvements necessary to get the property rent ready. They will have a list of trusted vendors used to handle the repair jobs. Some of those will also have a contractor's licence and may even operate their maintenance firms. They will have a process for maintenance requests in place, based on urgency. That allows them to handle things promptly and without any complications for you and the tenants.


Most of the property management firms out there have a process for tenants submitting maintenance requests, including for any potential emergencies that happen after hours. Depending on the company, those may be submitted over the phone or online through a maintenance portal.


©MLM Property Management


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text 2022-03-31 02:57
How to Prepare for a Public Speech if you Have Anxiety


Public speaking anxiety, also known as glossophobia, is one of the most widespread social fears out there. Although some people may feel nervous about giving speeches and presentations, if you are experiencing a social anxiety disorder, public speaking may be an absolute nightmare.


Public speaking anxiety may also be called performance anxiety, a type of social anxiety disorder (SAD). Social phobias are the most common type of mental health condition. Symptoms of public speaking anxiety are the very same that happens with social anxiety disorder, but they only happen when speaking in public. If you are suffering from public speaking anxiety, you will likely be worried about an upcoming speech or presentation for months before it happens. You will experience physical symptoms of anxiety during the speech, such as a pounding heart, quivering voice, dizziness, upset stomach, shortness of breath, blushing, shaking and more.


Preparing for a Public Speech


There are several ways you can use to cope with speech anxiety, as well as become better at public speaking in general. Public speaking is similar to any other activity. Training and preparation mean better performance when your experience grows. You will be better prepared, with boosted confidence and you’ll find it easier to concentrate on getting your message across to your audience. Even if you suffer from social anxiety, you can deliver a great speech with proper treatment and enough time devoted to preparing ahead of time.


Planning Ahead


Taking serious steps to plan before the speech will give you better control over your anxiety. Before you give a speech, consider the following:


Choosing a topic that is close to your heart. If you can, you should choose something you’re excited about. If you can’t choose the topic yourself, you should use an approach to the topic you find interesting. As an example, you can give a personal story that relates to the topic as a way of introducing it to your speech. You can ensure you are engaged in the topic and you will stay motivated in your preparation and research. That way, when you are presenting, your enthusiasm and interest in the topic will be inspiring to your audience.


Be familiar with the venue you’ll be visiting. You should visit the conference room, auditorium, classroom, banquet hall, whatever it is. Familiarising yourself with its look, practising in there just for the environment, all of those things will help ease you into the speech when the time comes. Being familiar with the venue is one of the best ways to relax.


Ask for accommodations. This means changes to the work environment that would help you deal with anxiety. A podium, a pitcher of water, audiovisual equipment and even choosing to stay seated if you can, all of those can make a difference. If you have been diagnosed with social anxiety disorder, then you may need to let the organisers know ahead of time, so they can give you a hand. There’s no shame in having someone watching your back.


Avoid scripting your speeches. If you have ever sat through a speech where someone reads it prepared ahead of time, word-by-word, then you know you will probably fail to recall much of what was said. Prepare a list of key points on paper and note cards you can use later on. 


Develop your routine. Putting one together to manage your anxiety can be of great help before a presentation or speech. It should help put you in the proper state of mind, allowing you to maintain a relaxed state before, during and after the event. It may be something as simple as practising before a mirror or meditation, whatever works for you.


©Presence Training


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text 2022-03-17 03:33
Wedding Limo Transportation Ideas that You Need to Consider


When you’re busy making plans for a wedding, it may seem that every detail is something major. A lot of those seemingly major decisions end upswept in the planning, most importantly transportation. You need to consider how your bridal party and other people at the wedding will get around on your big day.


Making a big entrance and impressive wedding limos aside, you will need to be aware of the exact route you will take from the ceremony to your reception. You need to know how you will travel and before you do that, you need to find the right company, making the first steps. The following examples will give you a few pointers, so you can get things done right:


  • Book Your Limo Online

There is a reason why ordering online is convenient and easy. You can have a copy of the reservation and confirmation done on your phone or computer, but when you book online, you should screenshot the details of the order, as well as the pertinent confirmation information. When this is done, the information will be easy to find and access, whenever you feel like it. Brides or grooms who share the screenshot can also keep people informed of the plans and where the limo is going.


  • Ask For A Backup Route Plan

Although it may seem like overkill, since you will trust the driving service to know your immediate area, having a route plan will help select the best route from point A to point B. A backup plan will account for heavy traffic, unseen road accidents and other issues. Your wedding may be planned ahead of time, but unexpected circumstances happen, so you would do well to have a backup plan just in case.


  • Research the Limo Company

Since not every service will have what you need, some may even be downright disappointing. You should ask a few important questions before you commit and hire one. Can you decorate the vehicle? Will all your guests fit inside? Can you take photos inside? Is the car of your choice available on your wedding day? Can the car be in the wedding photos? With a good and classy limo ride, you won’t have to worry about transportation at all. You want a company that arrives on time and gets the job done right.


  • Figure Out Who Needs Transport

Though the bride and bridal party are the main stars of the limo’s arrival, you need to consider how everyone else will be transported. There is also the need to take multiple venues in mind. How will the group get from the ceremony to the reception, if the limo ride is private? Consider the newlyweds, but also the wedding party, both sets of parents, grandparents and siblings as you get your plans prepared. 


If you want to be especially considerate to your guests, you can hire a limo to transport the out-of-town guests as well. For a more budget-oriented approach, you should consider renting a party bus, instead of using separate transportation for a lot of guests. You could also use the limo service as a way to have a little privacy and comfort with your new spouse. It will give you breathing room before the main event and the start of the party.


  • Book Ahead of Time

This is something very important to keep in mind. Whenever graduation season or proms arrive, limos are hired all the time, so you may need to schedule months in advance if you want to even have a free slot to have your limo ride.


©Fast Limo Hire

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text 2022-03-07 09:17
5 Unquestionable Benefits of Hypnotherapy


In cinema, hypnosis is often depicted as some sort of control tool. People fall in love against their will, commit crimes, get brainwashed. Hypnotists are shown as mesmerists who put people on stage and make them quack like chickens or perform other nonsensical tricks. Even though hypnosis is shown in rather ridiculous ways, making it seem like something simply used for fun, there is in fact a useful therapeutic element to it. Hypnotherapy can be used to benefit you either as a standalone treatment or as a supplemental one when paired with other treatments.


  • Insomnia and Sleepwalking

Hypnosis may be a helpful tool if you are sleepwalking or having trouble falling asleep. If you are suffering from insomnia, then hypnosis may be the best way to relax and get you in the mood to hit the pillow. Hypnosis may be a very helpful tool if you’re having issues with sleepwalking, staying asleep or falling from your bed. If you have insomnia issues, the treatment can also help you enter a relaxed state so you can sleep more soundly.


If you happen to be a sleepwalker, then you should know that hypnosis can train you to wake up as soon as you’re out of bed, making you avoid the dangers of sleepwalking. You can be put in a trance-like state with verbal cues, something similar to the feeling of being so involved in a movie, a book or something else that you lose track of what happens around you. After hypnosis, you can easily fall asleep.


  • Dealing with Anxiety

Relaxation techniques, such as hypnosis may sometimes ease anxiety. Hypnosis is often most effective with people whose anxiety comes from a chronic health condition. This is far more often the case than with people who suffer from a generalised anxiety disorder. Hypnosis may also be able to help with phobias, anxiety disorders where people have intense fears of something that doesn’t ordinarily pose a threat. Hypnosis works to help with anxiety by encouraging the body to activate the natural relaxation response, through the use of nonverbal cues, lowering of blood pressure, slower breathing and an overall sense of well-being. 


  • Irritable Bowel Syndrome

The effectiveness of hypnotherapy on IBS is being supported by clinical studies. IBS is an abdominal pain experienced in your bowels, but hypnosis can help alleviate symptoms such as diarrhoea, bloating and constipation among other things. Hypnosis will work through progressive relaxation, providing you with sensations and imagery that soothes the symptoms you’re experiencing.


  • Chronic Pain

Hypnosis can also help with pain, especially one that is experienced after surgery, migraines or tension headaches. It can help with chronic pain as well. Conditions like cancer, fibromyalgia, sickle cell disease, arthritis and more can experience relief through the use of hypnosis as well. The treatment can help you cope with pain, getting more self-control over how you deal with it. Studies have shown that hypnosis can help for long periods. 


  • You Can Quit Smoking

The use of hypnosis to quit smoking can work best with a one-on-one session with a hypnotherapist. They can help you organise the hypnosis sessions around your lifestyle, so you can address the issue. For hypnosis to work, you need to want to quit smoking. That works in two ways. The first step is to find a healthy, effective replacement for the act of smoking, then you can guide your subconscious into forming that habit and replacing smoking that way. This may be something as simple as chewing gum or any other activity. The second is to help train your mind to connect smoking to unpleasant feelings like a foul smell or bad taste in your mouth. 


© Zoe Clews & Associates


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