This was helpful for me in teaching me to let go of any expectations or judgments I have about my loved one leaving her abuser, and instead learn to be a better friend to her--so that she can leave him if she chooses to leave, or she can have me as a source of support and safety if she chose to stay.

I had an "aha moment" when this book talked about how my insisting that my loved one leave the relationship, and badgering her about it, was precisely what the abuser does to her--tries to exert power over her and control her actions, and implies that she cannot be independent and is not capable of making her own choices.

The book helps you to let go of your old goals for your loved one and form new, healthier ones that you have control over.

This is a must-read for everyone--for people who are being abused, people who are not being abused, family members and friends of people being abused, people who have escaped abusive relationships, people who want to understand angry and controlling men... EVERYONE. It demystifies partner abuse in a way that our society NEEDS to understand.

Screenshot of an author's take on the now-with-publishing-deal-to-crow-about-the-stalking writer who stalked a reviewer in real life at home and at work.  (not naming to avoid promoting or improving search engine standings but shows in screenshot).

As if, somehow, stalking is not doing harm. As if confronting someone could never lead to harm. As if the victim deciding to retreat from reviewing is not harm.

Silencing harms. Stalking harms. Being made afraid is harm. Victim did not set out to make writer's life miserable -- as if that excuses stalking; victim reviewed writer's book.

...in effect that we should all read it before judging.

(Source: http://www.bustle.com/p/author-kathleen-hale-admitted-to-stalking-a-goodreads-user-now-she-has-a-book-deal-about-it-15649240 , last paragraph)

Huh? WTF? Are they offering refunds if after reading it we still think the stalker detailing their crime in this book is a stalker?

What a load of marketing to get people to buy the book.

Next paycheck I'm making another donation of the book's price to http://victimsofcrime.org/about-us/support-our-work  -- mentioning the #HaleNo hashtag and in honor of Blythe.

I'm only boycotting this book.  I refuse to blame all of publisher Grove's authors for this stalker crap.