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review 2019-09-25 20:09
THE BOOK OF DREAMS by Nina George
The Book of Dreams - Nina George
Henri is going to meet his son, Sam, for the first time.  He has an accident and ends up in a coma in the hospital.  Sam visits him daily and becomes wrapped up in Maddie's life unexpectedly. 
 
This was not what I expected.  I enjoyed the four points-of-view.  I loved Sam.  The funniest scene is when Sam throws the birthday party for Maddie.  I laughed 'til I cried.  I cried sad tears at other times.  While Henri is supposed to be the main character, I felt pulled to Sam.  He is the most interesting character with a profound outlook on what is happening with the others.  While this was not my favorite book in her trilogy on mortality, it does have a lot of ideas for me to think on.
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review 2019-04-26 05:43
The Viscount Who Loved Me by Julia Quinn
The Viscount Who Loved Me - Julia Quinn

When Anthony Bridgerton's father was 38, he was stung by a bee and died. Anthony idolized his father, and his death affected him deeply. When Anthony decides, at age 29, that it's time for him to settle down and produce an heir, his father's fate is constantly on his mind. He is convinced he won't live to see 39, and so he's determined to marry someone he is unlikely to fall in love with.

Edwina Sheffield seems like the perfect candidate - stunningly beautiful and reasonably intelligent, but with nothing about her that affects Anthony on a deeper level. Unfortunately, Edwina has publicly stated that she won't marry anyone her older sister, Kate, doesn't approve of, and Kate loathes Anthony for his reputation as a rake. As they get to know each other, Kate realizes that Anthony is a better man than she first thought, and Anthony realizes that Kate is very much a woman he could fall in love with. But there's still the issue of Edwina, and Anthony's bone-deep belief that he will die young.

Looking over my records, this appears to be the third Bridgerton book I've read, although I only recall one of those other two books having a Bridgerton as one of the main characters. At any rate, looking over my reviews, I appear to have a somewhat rocky relationship with Quinn's books - they tend to generally be enjoyable and/or emotional reads for me, but they usually have at least one or two aspects that stick in my craw. Sometimes the emotional punch can override those problems and sometimes it can't. The Viscount Who Loved Me tried really hard but ended up falling more in the latter category.

In the first half of this book, Anthony was pretty awful. He behaved horribly towards Kate, despite needing her good opinion in order to stand a better chance of marrying Edwina. There was a scene with Kate's dog (a Welsh corgi!) that I think was supposed to be funny but instead just made Anthony look worryingly prone to excessive anger. I was reminded of Justin, my least favorite character in L. Rowyn's A Rational Arrangement.

The scene that really stuck with me, however, was the one where Kate accidentally overheard Anthony talking to a former mistress of his, as he attempted to rekindle their relationship in an effort to push Kate out of his mind. Anthony told her that the only reason for a husband to be faithful to his wife was if he loved her, and since he had no intention of loving whichever woman he married, he saw no reason he couldn't have a mistress. The scene ended with a clash between Anthony and Kate in which he humiliated her and behaved more like a villain than a romance hero.

Cheating is one of those things I have absolutely no tolerance for in a romance novel. Although Anthony didn't cheat, this scene did establish that he believed there were circumstances under which it would be perfectly acceptable for him to cheat. (And no, I don't accept "historical accuracy" as an excuse. There are lots of enjoyable historical romances where the heroes never once talk about the possibility of having a mistress.)

The way Anthony humiliated Kate at the end of that scene was a big issue for me as well. As much as I cheered at the way Kate's game of Bridgerton Pall Mall turned out, it was a small moment of victory compared to how terribly Anthony had behaved. But that eventually paled in comparison to the "if I don't love my wife, it's okay for me to cheat on her" bit.

It was like Quinn expected readers to forget Anthony had ever said that, as though reading his thoughts and knowing he wasn't even thinking about taking a mistress was good enough. Unfortunately, all I could think was that Kate couldn't read Anthony's thoughts, and so her behavior later on didn't make any sense. Yes, Anthony was a good brother and son. Yes, he was very kind as he comforted Kate during a thunderstorm (she was afraid of thunder and lightning), and it was a great moment for the two of them. But was it reason enough for Kate to back off and give Anthony permission to court her sister? I didn't think so. He'd made it clear that there was at least a possibility he'd cheat on Edwina, and it was odd that Kate seemed to have forgotten that.

It became even odder later on when

Anthony and Kate married (for reasons) and Anthony told Kate that he didn't have any intention of falling in love with her. I was instantly reminded of the scene with Anthony's mistress and, despite Anthony's statement that he would be faithful to her and their vows, I thought Kate would be reminded of that scene as well. I was wrong. It never came up again. Instead, Kate worried a couple times that Anthony secretly wished she were Edwina, someone more conventionally beautiful.

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The book had some powerful scenes relating to the way a parent's death can affect a person, sometimes in ways they can't articulate or fully understand. And there were some lovely scenes with Anthony and his family, and Kate and hers. Kate and Mary, her stepmother, had a wonderfully loving relationship, and although Anthony automatically assumed that Kate must secretly be jealous of her lovelier younger sister (half sister? step sister? I don't recall), in reality Kate loved Edwina and genuinely wanted her to be happy. Unfortunately, I could never quite get past that scene with Anthony and his former mistress, and the fact that Kate seemed to have magically forgotten about it.

 

Rating Note:

 

This was a difficult book to rate. The parts I had problems with were bad enough that I nodded in agreement with reviewers who DNFed the book. Later scenes grabbed my heart and squeezed it, and there were parts that had me in tears - had it not been for the earlier stuff, 4 stars might have been appropriate. I settled on 2.5 because, as much as I liked some of those later scenes, I deeply disliked Anthony in the first part of the book and would gladly have paired Kate up with Colin instead.

 

(Original review posted on A Library Girl's Familiar Diversions.)

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review 2019-01-28 14:36
a very fitting end x
Escaping Mortality (Escape Trilogy #3) - Sara Dobie Bauer
I was gifted my copy of this book, direct from the author, that I write a review was not required. But since I read and reviewed the other two parts, it's only fitting I review this one, too, don't you think?? This is the third and final book in the Escape trilogy and you rally MUST read the other two books first. You need to know how Edmund and Andrew found themselves in the middle of the Atlantic Ocean, looking for an Elder! Only Andrew has a say in these books, and THIS one, more than the other two, I NEEDED Edmund I really did! Some things happen here, that made me want to hear what he had to say, so bloody bad and he doesn't. I KNEW that he probably would not have a say, but a girl can hope, right? Edmund and Andrew and their friends are on a boat to England and to find the Elder. Once the Elder has located and Edmund turned, they continue on to visit Edmund's sick mother. The "friend" looking after her is vile and dealing with her and the gifts the Elder has bestowed upon him, pushes Edmund to his limits. Then WHY the Elder gave Edmund these gifts becomes clear and Edmund has a choice: Andrew or the Elder. I found this one a little less sexy than the others, but a whole lot more bloody! The way Edmund deals with the friend was scary, but needed I think. The Elder? Well he choose his path, once it became clear that there is, and there will only ever be, ONE person for Edmund. I did not see what the "friend" was up to, looking after Edmund's mother, nor did I see what the Elder had planned fro Edmund, so it was nice to be surprised by those things. I LOVED the epilogue! Seriously well played with that one! I have enjoyed these three short bursts of Andrew and Edmund, but I really think had Edmund been given a voice too, these would have been all 5 star reads. Thank you, for letting me read your books, Ms Dobie Bauer! 4 solid stars **same worded review will appear elsewhere**

 

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text 2019-01-25 14:13
REVIEW BY LIZZY - Escaping Mortality (Escape Trilogy #3) by Sara Dobie Bauer
Escaping Mortality (Escape Trilogy #3) - Sara Dobie Bauer

Their ocean journey was successful, and Andrew and Edmund found an Elder just in time. As they wished, Edmund is now a vampire like Andrew. They have eternity together, but first, they must visit Edmund's ailing mother in the English countryside with their flock of immortals, including the Elder, who has taken an ominous liking to his new creation.

When they arrive at Edmund's family estate, his sick mother and her loathsome best friend await them. While ducking religious curses, Edmund struggles to harness an unexpected power gifted him by the Elder. Andrew fears for his beloved as Edmund becomes more and more monstrous—but vampires have always been monsters, haven't they?

A battle is coming, for Edmund's heart and his soul, and Andrew will lose neither. He escaped island exile and a near tragedy at sea to be with Edmund, the beautiful young sailor he loves. Andrew will do anything to keep Edmund by his side, but his most dangerous adversary may be Edmund himself.

Source: archaeolibrarian.wixsite.com/website/single-post/2019/01/25/Escaping-Mortality-Escape-Trilogy-3-by-Sara-Dobie-Bauer
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review 2018-10-26 21:46
The argument for palliative care
Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End - Atul Gawande

"...our decision making in medicine has failed so spectacularly that we have reached the point of actively inflicting harm on patients rather than confronting the subject of mortality. ...you live longer only when you stop trying to live longer." - pg 178

 

I wanted to start with that quote from today's book because it struck me as being so shocking in its simplicity and yet it completely blindsided me with its poignancy. Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End by Atul Gawande is at heart a discussion of the ups and downs of treating the elderly through a variety of means whether that means aggressive medicine, nursing homes, assisted living, or hospice. It's obvious that the author has a great admiration for palliative care and a belief that all doctors/clinicians should be trained and proactive to deliver the best care for their patients. In essence, asking practical questions about what trade-offs patients are willing to make for ensuring good days ahead are key to excellent palliative care (for any age). He stresses that instead of simply giving all the options for care at the outset of a diagnosis doctors should instead ask a set of pertinent questions to get at what their patient really wants to have a good quality of life. This is relevant (and necessary) for patients whether they be elderly, terminally ill, or disabled. Gawande clearly knows his stuff (he is a doctor after all) and he was thorough in his research for this book as he interviewed across many disciplines to see what is being done by various agencies in the care of the elderly and dying. Apparently there is no one accepted method of care except to ask, listen, and respect the wishes of patients. According to Gawande, there is "...a still unresolved argument about what the function of medicine really is - what, in other words, we should and should not be paying for doctors to do." (pg 187) Hospice is not just an option for those who are looking for end of life help or to speed up death but is an excellent choice to make good days out of one's remaining life. My verdict: Very informative book that I kept picking up with great alacrity and I will definitely read more of his writing. 10/10

 

I'll leave you with this final quote to chew over:

 

"At root, the debate is about what we fear most - the mistake of prolonging suffering or the mistake of shortening valued life. All the same, I fear what happens when we expand the terrain of medical practice to include actively assisting people with speeding their death." - pg 244  

 

What's Up Next: The Science of Superheroes by Lois H. Gresh & Robert E. Weinberg

 

What I'm Currently Reading: The Bear and the Nightingale by Katherine Arden

 

Source: readingfortheheckofit.blogspot.com
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