Friendships are relationships are sometimes tough for me, but when I meet someone that I "cilck" with, it usually ends very well.
The Brafman brothers explore those times when total strangers meet for work, at random, etc. and "click." This can lead to deep friendships, romances, and more. They can take many forms. Sometimes it's a chance meeting. In one instance, a person with one name Googled herself to find a man with the exact same name. They eventually began talking and ended up in a romance. Or in another situation, a hostage negotiator must try to build a rapport with someone threatening to hurt or kill. He finds a detail that connects the two of them and eventually builds a trust that frees the hostages and ends with no blood shed, no deaths.
The authors also look at some of the science behind this: how some people are naturally attuned to being able to "click" with others. How sometimes opening oneself to another can help build a connection. In a study of college dorms, the study found students located near the middle of the floor or the most trafficked areas were more likely to be more engaged in social activities and have more friendships vs. people who lived on the ends of the floor.
Quite a few of these made sense to me. In retrospect, there were times when I simply "clicked" quite well with someone, despite never having met them before. In others, the proximity of working or taking class together helped establish that rapport. Or in others, I had a similar personality to the person I was speaking to, which also lent to a more air.
Overall an interesting read. Borrowed from the library, but worth buying if this interests you. There aren't tips exactly to better "click" with people (it's not meant to be a self-help book), but it's worth thinking about one's past experiences and compare that to what the authors write.