Social media is just weird sometimes. I'm not sure it is the most healthy... in fact, it probably isn't healthy at all for some people.
*Random person, I've never met or seen or talked to anywhere*
No, I don't want to be your friend (I don't have to have a reason!)
No, I'm not being rude (Again, I don't have to have a reason!)
Yes, I know I'm a big girl, and all your "sweet" and not so sweet words of why I'm your type of person are not a compliment, no matter what you think they are. They are out of line, random, unwanted, and just disgusting. Anyone who does this, please stop! We don't actually like it.
A true compliment is one thing, but please stop the fetish ones. I am not your fetish. I'm not your fatty fetish, I'm not your mental health fetish, I'm not your anything fetish. You're not entitled to me, not entitled to say these thing and you shouldn't be offended when I ignore you or block you, or when I tell you point blank to stop saying stuff. No, I shouldn't feel flattered... honestly? You really think that? I won't fall for it because of low self esteem/self worth or whatever you think.
This does happen more than you think and not just on Facebook. This is why I've stopped looking for penpals.
*Random stranger who might mean well*
You came out of nowhere. I don't know you and I'm sure you are a kind person.
I appreciate your concern. I know I talk about mental health and social anxiety and you want me to know I'm not alone...thank you. I wish you realized that your constant messages, every single day makes me feel more social anxiety, and you keep messaging if I don't answer the first time... There are times I don't answer my bestest friends for days, even months... You mean well, but I don't know you. I can't tell you to stop, either, because that makes me feel worse. (You might even be a kid, I can't tell by your photos.)
*Person/stranger who are not so random*
Yes, I will be your friend if we've talked and got to know each other before adding each other.
Yes, I would love to follow/subscribe back if you are not just a person who follows/subscribes and ditches once I do the same. (People on blogs and subscribing platforms like YouTube.)
Do not talk to me if I am reading a book (this includes on my Kindle or phone!) or if I have headphones on. These are clear signs that I want to be left alone/need space/need me time. Wait until I put the book down, or at the very least when you see me finish a chapter (If you're hovering over my shoulder that close.)
Retail workers... I'm good. Please don't talk to me as soon as I walk in. I know it is your job... I know it won't stop. I just wish businesses were more friendly to people with sensory issues. This goes double for retail workers who jump in your face regardless if you are blasting music into your ears via big noise canceling headphones. Um... stop.
Thanks for asking, but that is personal. I'm allowed to not have to explain every little thing. I'm allowed to say "it's personal" if you ask me something I don't want to answer.
I don't want to go to your event (I don't have to have a reason)
If I want to go to your event, I'm allowed to leave early, or sit in a corner and be quiet, or play with my sensory tools (I don't have to have a reason)
I don't want to hug you right now (I don't have to have a reason)
I don't want to talk to you right now (I don't have to have a reason)
I'm unfriending you on Facebook/wherever (I don't have to have a reason, and we can still be friends in real life, but perhaps you only post things that cause me harm, like a bunch of animal cruelty posts, or your views are different from mine and you constantly post stuff I don't like to read/see 24/7...etc. But again, I don't have to have a reason, and I don't have to tell you why if I don't want to.)
We have to part ways as friends, in real life or on social media. This rarely happens with people I really know well, just saying. Some people just end up being toxic, no matter how much you might care for them or love them. If you are finding they make you feel worse... you are allowed to part ways. You can tell them why if you want or if they ask you, you can tell them, but you don't have to if you don't want to. Though talking could fix a problem you're having with them, but sometimes it won't help.