by Bety Comerford and Steve Wilson
The Introduction begins by explaining what an empath is, which will be easily identifiable by anyone who has spent their lives being hyper sensitive to the emotions of others. It also postulates that an empath can feel the emotions of the dead, which I'm not sure I would agree with as I have my own beliefs about ghosts and spirits and such.
All that aside, the book approaches the subject as a skill to be embraced, where other books speak of shielding and how to protect oneself from the sometimes overwhelming emotions of a crowd of people. It promises to explain how to change the energy of emotions so that the empath can affect the world around themselves, actually changing the vibrational level of emotional energy. The authors style themselves as "Shamanic healers" and use an example from an empath named Alex to demonstrate their methods.
Each chapter breaks down the idea of what it is to be an empath. The first chapter tells about Alex learning to discern between what people say and the emotions they project, while finding pure comfort in nature and among animals who communicate purely on an honest, emotional level. It paints Alex as a solitary child who instinctively knows that his parents won't understand his internal perceptions. In some ways I think using Alex as an example became too simplistic. I also found it incongruent that he didn't pick up on the false laughter of older boys making fun of him when he could easily note false sincerity in adults.
The book suggests that energy from negative emotions can be felt physically and create feelings of unwellness, that this is what separates an empath from the rest of the population who all feel some level of empathy and that learning to deal with a high sensitivity to emotion is part of the lessons that we are meant to learn. The authors postulate fatalism to a degree that some readers might agree with and others will find at odds with their own beliefs.
Subsequent chapters include subjects like energetic safety, keeping silent, bad things that happen and dealing with a sensitivity that lasts forever, as well as acceptance, simultaneous time, how to use the energy (or magic!), responsibility and energy evolution.
I felt that Alex's teenage experiences were too cliché. People react differently to situations and the depiction of Alex didn't come over as quite right for the typical teenage empath. I've known a few and find them generally more intelligent and less reactionary than the average teenager. Alex's response to frustration didn't quite fit. However, I could see the lessons couched within the tales of Alex. One particularly important one was in letting go of struggle when dealing with spiritual entities and allowing energy to naturally flow.
The book explains some color symbolism and how it relates to Chakras. It also talks about using empathic energy to cast spells and about grounding as well as auras. I'm inclined to disagree with the assertion that "everybody wants to fit in". In my own experience as an empathic teenager, I found the facade of conformity to group trends of little interest and whatever need I might have had for friendship to be satisfied by those few others who felt themselves similarly different, usually found in music, literature and drama classes.
Despite the book's preachy tone and diversions into things like ghosts, UFOs and other strange phenomena, I think there is a lot of valuable information for the natural empath who might not have encountered others who understand this extra sensitivity in their lives. The example about the rock musician who needed to learn to ground his excess energy was particularly good. While I don't think the needy version of the empath depicted in the text is at all universal, there is useful analogy for anyone and this book would be especially valuable for those who actually do need validation from people outside of themselves.
Near the middle of the book, the authors relate some of their own life experiences. These give some good examples of how things can kind of fall into place and for situations where sometimes the best course just 'feels right', even if it doesn't appear to be the most logical choice. They also express a belief in reincarnation and the concept that each life is meant to become a lesson in a longer series of spiritual existence, stating that you choose your circumstances before birth according to the lessons you are meant to learn that time around. It's a fairly popular view within the new age paradigm.
The chapter on simultaneous time quotes Einstein, then goes into reincarnation and UFOs, so the reader's beliefs will determine what they get out of this chapter. It also postulates the belief that everything happens for a reason. As new age books go, this one feels like it's talking down to the reader much of the time, yet there are some important lessons and it could be valuable for someone who is new to the subject matter and is in need of guidance through their own empathic experiences.