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review 2015-05-04 21:38
The Feminine Mystique: A classic
The Feminine Mystique - Betty Friedan,Anna Quindlen


The Feminine Mystique by Betty Friedan is an iconic book that relentlessly changed the way the American woman saw herself, until its first publication in 1963. Feministic in a good way, without the morbid extravaganza other reads of that type hold, it's relevant even now and if you don't choose to believe so, at least you can appreciate it as a historical document.

In my opinion the above statement holds more truth than any other quote about gender equality every did. Of course not all of her suggestions are correct, or well examined. Many of her points are dislodged to the extremity of becoming eerie representations of what it might have been at first as an idea. But noone can be so foolish as to ignore the masterful and underrated -until then- meaning behind every single testament, the choise.

The free choise. In few words the significance and value of the book lays completely in this little concept. This commanding, severe notion. For centuaries -in different stages every era- the woman as an archetype had very particular "jobs" to do. Marrying, taking care of the house, raising as many children as the fate would give her -with no use for any contraceptive method- having the men in her life dictating every aspect and every decision and of course the "stay there and look pretty" utility. But only that. For the mainstream, everyday woman there was no freedom, no individuality, no aspiration. If you wanted to be something else, something not more but just different you didn't had the choise.

Friedan's whole point is this, it doesn't diminish the want of a woman to be a housewife and a mother, it just states the actual fact, that you can be all that and a thousand more things, or not. You can be a mother and a working woman, or you can be a mother, or you can be a working woman, period. You can be anything you want, so long it is your choise, not just an outdated inclination. Don't barricade yourself behind meaningless gender roles, labels or privileges, make choises.

Bottom line, the book is not perfect. It's repetitive, drawn out and maybe a little arid at points. BUT it was a fundamental lever of motion back in the sixties that ultimately led to the Second-wave Feminism movement and created the coalition with other movements such as the civil rights and the student's rights, that eventually changed the world, in so many aspects, with an amazing force.
It must be appreciated and cherished for helping to make the world a little better, a little brighter, a little less menial and tedious.


- I don't agree with her about homosexuality. I'm sure it was just a way of approaching the middle class, narrow minded women of the time and not entirely her beliefs.
- I believe that if you are a mother, you give to your child a piece of you, you will never get back and that is great if you make the choise to become a parent consciously. But if you only doing it in order to fulfil a stereotype you harm both you shild and yourself.
- Equality will never be attained, not really in all forms.
- The media still play a devious part in society discrimination.


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review 2015-05-02 00:00
The Feminine Mystique
The Feminine Mystique - Betty Friedan,Parker Posey It's difficult to know what to rate this, how many stars for a Great and Terrible Book?

I would certainly recommend reading it to anyone interested in feminism and the history of second wave feminism, because it's a pretty clear manifesto of the start of all that, and it's picture of the position of women in the 1950s and how they got there, as well as the forces driving the toxic gender politics of the time, is clear and interesting, and relevant to this day. She also addresses toxic masculinity, and how the gender norms hurt all involved, which is nice to read in an older book.

It's also an incredibly limited book. It's by for and about straight middle-class white women. It makes the odd claim at universalism, especially in the layers of additions surrounding the book, but it's focus is very, very much on the suburban housewife, and more or less completely ignores that their reality is completely different from that of working class women, the majority of women of colour, queer women (and so on).

I can see the reasons for Friedan's focus – she's talking about her own people, there was more data on them, and she could see a way out for them – but having reasons doesn't make the book any less lopsided. And the sniping at other women's movements in the epilogue only underlined this.

She also both criticised and bought into Freudian psychoanalysis, which made anything to do with sex... well incredibly dated to put it mildly. If you don't want to deal with MASSIVE homophobia, I'd rec just skipping the whole section on sex.

So, mixed bag. I'm glad I read it because it still informs the feminist movement of today, but I will admit that it was more than a bit of a trudge to get though, and I'm glad to be done with it.
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text 2014-12-01 17:29
November Reading Round-Up
As You Wish: Inconceivable Tales from the Making of The Princess Bride - Joe Layden,Cary Elwes,Rob Reiner
The Year We Fell Down - Sarina Bowen
Yes Please - Amy Poehler
Scenes from the City: A Knitting in the City Wintertime Surprise - Penny Reid
This I Believe: The Personal Philosophies of Remarkable Men and Women - Jay Allison,Dan Gediman
Men Explain Things to Me - Rebecca Solnit
The Feminine Mystique - Betty Friedan,Anna Quindlen
Dirty Rowdy Thing - Christina Lauren
Landline: A Novel - Rainbow Rowell
Screwdrivered - Alice Clayton

Any month where I read more than Booklikes 10-book-covers-per-post limit is a good month (except possibly November, where all the reading I did took time away from the NaNoWriMo writing I should have been doing, alas). Not counting all of the picture books I read with my boys, I finished fifteen books in November. (I only wrote ~12,000 words.)


4.5 stars:


As You Wish: Inconceivable Tales of the Making of The Princess Bride, Cary Elwes -- This is a must for anyone who loves The Princess Bride. I recommend the audiobook, as most of the cast and crew contribute, so it's like listening to a radio show documentary.


The Year We Fell Down, Sarina Bowen -- I don't usually read New Adult, but I glommed onto the Ivy Years series hard. I read the whole series in a long weekend. This first book, with a paraplegic heroine, was my favorite.


4 stars:



Yes Please, Amy Poehler -- Considering I have nothing in common with Amy except that we both have two young sons, I related to this memoir a lot more than I thought I would. Plus, it was super funny.


Understatement of the Year -- See my above comment about glomming the Ivy Years series. This third book was my second favorite, a second-chance romance involving two hockey players (yes, it's M/M. Read it even if you don't think that's your thing.).


Scenes From the City, Penny Reid -- This won't appeal much to anyone who isn't already into the Knitting in the City series, but if you're already a fan, the fifth story in this collection will have you salivating for the 2015 release of Happily Ever Ninja. Act fast, this is only on sale through December 15!


Blonde Date -- A short story, really more of a vignette, in the Ivy Years series. The hero is wonderfully beta.


3.5 stars:


Men Explain Things to Me, Rebecca Solnit -- a thought-provoking set of essays on feminist topics, but a little too spendy, considering how short it is, IMO.


The Year We Hid Away, Sarina Bowen -- My least favorite book in the Ivy Years series, this was still a very entertaining read. It just had an awesome premise which didn't quite live up to my hopes.


The Feminine Mystique, Betty Friedan -- This has been on my TBR for 20 years. I'm glad to have finally made time for it. It was a more timely read than I expected, but my interest waned in the last third of the book.


This I Believe, various -- I've been plugging away at this collection of short essays in my spare time since the summer. A few of them were real gems.


3 Stars:


Landline,  Rainbow Rowell -- My least favorite Rainbow Rowell book so far. I just couldn't connect with the heroine at all, but the book still had the sharp prose and poignant emotion that I love about Rowell's work.


Dirty Rowdy Thing, Christina Lauren -- Entertaining, but not especially memorable.


2.5 stars:


Screwdrivered,  Alice Clayton -- The snappy dialogue did not make up for the cliched plot and the too stupid to live heroine.


2 stars:


Beyond Possession, Kit Rocha -- my first disappointment in the Beyond series. This novella just felt flat to me. 


1 star:


The Temp, Part I,  Lacey Wolfe -- I won this in a giveaway. Since I don't have anything nice to say, ....


As for what's on tap in December, I just started Sarah MacLean's Never Judge a Lady by Her Cover, and it's off to a strong start.


Happy Holidays!



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review 2014-11-17 17:54
Uneven, but well worth reading even 50 years later....
The Feminine Mystique (Audible Modern Vanguard) - Betty Friedan,Parker Posey

I have such a hard time reviewing audiobooks, for (at least) two reasons: 1) it takes me a lot longer to finish them than it would if I were reading and so my memory of the earlier parts of the book is not as clear when it comes time to write a review, and 2) I listen to audiobooks while driving, so I can't stop to make notes or highlight or bookmark sections I want to remember for later, so when it comes time for a review, I don't have much to say. This review, then, is just a broad sketch of my general impressions.


I've been meaning to read this book for twenty years, since my own days as a Smith student (Betty Friedan is also a Smithie), but I never got around to it until Audible made it a Daily Deal sometime this summer. Parts of it were very dated, as you'd expect, but most of it was still extremely relevant.


I don't know about the choice of Parker Posey as a narrator. She's a sort of high brow, intellectually superior, privileged white woman, and she speaks with a subtle but unmistakable undertone of Snark. This makes her very like Friedan, actually, but I think the message would be more accessible to a wider audience without the Snark. That's probably true of Friedan's writing, too.


I really enjoyed the introductory essays by Anna Quindlen and the 1997 foreword by Friedan. The 1997 reflection was fascinating, both in what it told of Friedan's reflection on her own work over time, but also my own sense--having missed the 1950s and 60s (when the Mystique was at its peak) but having come of age in the late 1990s and lived to the present--that feminism has lost ground since Friedan's 1997 essay. Friedan talks about the GOP's last desperate efforts to strike down abortion, for example, but the intervening years have seen those efforts become more successful and less desperate, alas.


I also liked the middle sections where Friedan eviscerated functional anthropology and Freudian theories used to keep women homebound and uneducated, though I found it ironic and unfortunate that, a few chapters later, Friedan bought into those same disqualified Freudian notions without question when she suggested that homosexuality was one of the regrettable side effects of the Mystique, because frustrated mothers can't help but twist and pervert their sons into homos. A product of her time, sure, but interesting that Friedan could be so skeptical of Freudian thought when comes to women and so blind when it comes to another marginalized group she didn't understand.


I kind of turned off in the later chapters about the psychological damage that frustrated mothers caused to themselves and to their children, probably because I don't put a whole lot of stock into psychology in general.


Still, it's an important book if you're at all interested in feminism or women's studies, and I'm glad to have closed this gap in my education.




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text 2014-11-04 18:06
Reading progress update: I've listened 681 out of 926 minutes.
The Feminine Mystique (Audible Modern Vanguard) - Betty Friedan,Parker Posey

I was totally on board with Ms. Friedan right up until she got to the chapter about how one of the tragic side effects of the Feminine Mystique is that all of these infantile, frustrated, overbearing housewife mothers can't help but turn their sons into twisted, immature, promiscuous, self-loathing, neurotic homosexuals. Wow! Amazing that Friedan could so clearly skewer Freud's theories about women as a product of his time, culture, and personal biases, and yet she swallows those same flawed Freudian theories about homosexuality wholeheartedly without question.

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